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    Why buying Christmas presents can be hard when the child has autism.

    christmas presents can be hard when the child has autism
    #presentsandautism

    Christmas Presents for a Child with Autism Can Be Hard(And How to Make It Easier!)🎁

    Ah, the holiday season – filled with joy, festivities, and the sometimes daunting task of buying the perfect Christmas presents. 🎄 But what if your gift recipient is a child with autism? The adventure takes on a whole new level of complexity. Imagine “Jingle All the Way,” but instead of Turbo Man, you’re hunting for sensory-friendly clothes, very specific DVDs, or the perfect gift card. Trust me, as Jacob’s mom, I’ve been on this ride, and it’s one I’ll never forget! Help! 3 Ways a schedule can help sensory issues and communication barriers? #Autism Challenges🧩

    This year, let’s navigate the maze of holiday gift-giving with empathy, patience, and practical tips. By applying strategies from Educating Jacob’s CALM framework, you’ll discover how to turn gift-giving into a source of joy instead of stress.

    A child with autism often has limited interests.
    #limitedinterests

    Limited Interests, Maximal Specificity 🎬

    Jacob, like many children with autism, has some pretty specific interests. For him, it’s all about movies, but not just any movies. Oh no, we’re talking about films from the early 2000s with a certain cover from a specific year. Sounds challenging, right? It is. So, when we go shopping for Jacob, we’re on a mission – Amazon first, and if that doesn’t cut it, a detour to eBay might just save the day. The upside? We usually score a good deal. The downside? Jacob is as particular as a Michelin-starred chef. If it doesn’t meet his criteria, it’s a no-go, no matter how close it is to what he wants. You see, for kids like Jacob, the world isn’t just black and white; it’s an entire spectrum of details that matter. So, if the copyright date on the DVD doesn’t match his expectations, well, let’s just say, it’s going back to the seller faster than you can say “Santa Claus”!

    C: Consistency in Gift-Giving 🎁

    For children like Jacob, consistency is key. He thrives on routine, and the holidays can feel overwhelming with so many changes and surprises. Jacob, like many children with autism, has specific and limited interests. For him, it’s all about movies—but not just any movies. We’re talking about films from the early 2000s with a particular cover or copyright date. If those details don’t match, it’s a no-go, no matter how similar the item might be.

    • Example: One Christmas, we scoured Amazon and eBay to find a DVD he wanted but only from a specific year. While it seemed trivial at first, we realized how much these details mattered to him. That DVD wasn’t just a movie—it was his way of finding comfort in predictability.
    • Tip: Stick to what you know works. If your child loves puzzles, find one similar to their favorite. If they have specific interests, dig into the details to make it a hit.
    Children with autism often have sensory issues.
    #sensoryissues

    A: Always Celebrate Their Preferences 🎬

    Jacob’s favorite things aren’t just hobbies; they’re anchors of familiarity and joy. Whether it’s a Chick-fil-A gift card or a beloved Marvel hoodie, honoring his preferences shows him that his needs matter.

    • Example: Gift cards have become a hit in our home! Jacob loves the independence of choosing his own items. He lights up when he gets to flash a gift card and pick something he truly wants.
    • Old Insight: One year, his grandmother gave him a beautifully illustrated book with a sentimental note written inside. It should have been perfect, but Jacob rejected it because it didn’t match his expectation of a “new” book. It wasn’t about being ungrateful; it was about needing sameness.
    • Tip: Observe closely and tailor gifts to their preferences. If they love trains, make sure it’s their type of train, not just any train.
    Children on the autism spectrum often need sameness and repetition.
    #sameness

    L: Learn to Adapt for Sensory Needs 🧦

    Buying clothes for Jacob is like navigating a minefield of textures, tags, and seams. If it’s not soft and tagless, it’s a no-go.

    • Example: One year, we found a hoodie with Jacob’s favorite character, but the material wasn’t quite right. Lesson learned! Now, we always check fabrics carefully to avoid any sensory discomfort.
    • Old Insight: Even when we think we’ve nailed it, there’s still a chance it might not meet Jacob’s sensory standards. The texture might be off, or the stitching might feel scratchy to him. It’s not ungratefulness—it’s just autism at play.
    • Tip: For clothing or tactile gifts, let your child feel the fabric or test it before purchasing. This small step can make a world of difference.

    M: Mindset Makes the Holiday Bright 🌟

    One of the most important things I’ve learned is to approach the holidays with a calm and positive mindset. The perfect gift might not exist, but the perfect moment does—when your child feels loved and understood.

    • Example: One Christmas, Jacob refused to accept a beautifully illustrated book because someone had written inside it. It wasn’t rejection; it was his need for sameness. Instead of being upset, we adapted by ensuring all future books stayed “pristine.”
    • Old Insight: Another time, Jacob was thrilled with a Thomas the Train set—until he realized it didn’t include the exact engine he envisioned. We learned to communicate with him about expectations before surprises to avoid disappointment.
    • Tip: Expect the unexpected and focus on your child’s joy, not perfection. Be patient, and know that it’s okay to adjust on the fly.

     

    We wish you a Merry Christmas
    #ChristmasWithAutism https://educatingjacob.com/3-ways-to-help-your-child-with-autism-enjoy-christmas-without-meltdowns-and-anxiety/

    Tips and Strategies for Autism-Friendly Holiday Shopping

    1. Stick to Familiar Favorites
      • Lean into the things your child already loves. Specific toys, books, or shows are a great starting point.
    2. Prioritize Sensory-Friendly Options
      • Look for tagless, soft, and seamless clothing or tactile gifts that suit your child’s sensory preferences.
    3. Consider Gift Cards for Independence
      • Let your child pick their own gift! Whether it’s Amazon, Target, or a local favorite, gift cards empower them with choice.
    4. Plan Ahead with Visual Schedules
      • Add holiday activities like shopping or gift-opening to your child’s visual schedule to prepare them for changes in routine.
    5. Embrace Simplicity and Joy
      • It’s not about the cost or size of the gift. It’s about the love, effort, and understanding you bring to the experience.
    The Gift of Love and Understanding 🎄

    Buying Christmas presents for a child with autism is no easy task, but it’s one filled with opportunities for growth, connection, and love. By applying the CALM framework—consistency, celebrating preferences, adapting for sensory needs, and embracing a positive mindset—you can create a holiday season filled with joy and understanding.

    Now that the challenge of Christmas shopping for a child with autism is over, especially if you’re looking for ways to make Christmas more enjoyable. Check out last year’s post, ‘3 Ways To Help Your Child With Autism Enjoy Christmas Without Meltdowns And Anxiety,’ we explored strategies for a smoother holiday season. https://educatingjacob.com/3-ways-to-help-your-child-with-autism-enjoy-christmas-without-meltdowns-and-anxiety/

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    Fun Family Activities: A Parent’s Guide for a Joyful Season with Autism🎄

    autism holiday fun
    Advent scripture decorations and wreath serves as our visual guide to the story of Christ’s birth.

    Ah, the holiday season—a time for warmth, joy, and those peculiar yet heartwarming family traditions. As an autism mom, I’ve come to appreciate the quirks that make our holiday traditions uniquely ours. Let me walk you through our special brand of fun family activities for the holidays with autism #AutismHolidayFun! 🎄

    Autism Holiday Fun: Crafting the Cradle-to-Cross Wreath 🕯️

    Our holiday journey kicks off with the Cradle-to-Cross Wreath from The Keeping Company https://thekeepingcompany.com/products/cradle-to-cross-wreath-cherry. This beautiful wooden wreath, adorned with advent scripture decorations, serves as our visual guide to the story of Christ’s birth. We light the candle, decorate, and read the scripture, creating an intentional and meaningful way to keep company with Jesus Christ throughout the season. It’s not just a wreath; it’s a journey through faith, and Jacob enjoys every step!

    As Jacob’s mom it’s important that he understands why the season is important to us. This visual can be included as fun family activities for the holidays with autism that helps teach a meaningful family tradition showing Christ’s birth.

    Painting Ceramic Christmas Trees: Autism Holiday Fun! 🎨

    Remember those ceramic Christmas trees from yesteryears? Well, we decided to revive that crafty tradition! Making our own ceramic Christmas tree is a joyful activity, and the mess is part of the fun. I remember doing this with my mom when I was growing up, so I thought Jacob would enjoy it too. You can buy one, sure, but where’s the fun in that? Check out Greg’s Pottery on Instagram for some inspiration and unleash your inner artist! If that isn’t autism holiday fun, I don’t know what is!  👉  https://www.instagram.com/gregspottery/?hl=en

    Creating Wooden Garland Strands: The Macrame Masterpiece! 🧶

    autism holiday fun, Macrame beads for a strand on the tree!
    Macrame beads for a strand on the tree!

    This year, we decided to spruce up our tree with DIY wooden garland strands. We ordered macrame beads from Amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07ZYG45YQ?ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details&th=1, and let me tell you, it’s been a hit! Jake’s always been proud of his work, and the tree looks fantastic. It’s amazing how something so simple can add a sprinkle of magic to the holiday spirit.

    Baking Cookies:

    Ah, the smell of freshly baked cookies—nothing screams “holidays” like it! Jake loves my homemade cookies, but when Christmas rolls around, it’s all about those Pillsbury Christmas-shaped cookies. You know, the ones with the commercials that get to Jake’s heart? They remind him of his favorite holiday movies, and we indulge all month long. Who can resist Rudolph and Charlie Brown, anyway? This on is definitely autism holiday fun!

    Movie Nights: Nostalgia on the Screen 📽️

    Speaking of movies, Jake has a thing for the classics. We’re talking Charlie Brown Christmas, A Year Without a Santa Claus, Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer, The Santa Claus 2, and Jingle All the Way. We watch these films throughout December; the highlight is the day we put up the tree and decorate the house. It’s like our own little Hollywood screening! 

    Amazon Adventures: The Quest for Holiday Movies 🛒

    Now, if you want to see Jake light up like a Christmas tree, just let him show you the movies he wants on Amazon. He’s particular, so I have him pull them up to show me exactly. He’s been making his Christmas list right after his birthday in August for years. It’s a tradition! One year, he even asked for a surprise birthday party. Autism throws surprises at us all the time, but that one took the cake, and my best friend made it happen.

    Chloe’s Adorable Enthusiasm: Our Furry Sidekick 🐾
    autism holiday fun, Chloe's Christmas hair day!
    Chloe’s Christmas hair day!

    Oh, and how could I forget Chloe? She’s our furry sidekick and an essential part of our holiday crew. Jake thinks she’s the bee’s knees in her little Christmas PJs. When she gets her Bark Box with super squeak toys, Jake always has a trick up his sleeve. He grabs a toy, throws it in our room, and Chloe falls for it every time. 😊 Sure, her enthusiasm might annoy Jake occasionally, but she’s all part of the family fun.

    Capturing Memories: Yearly Scrapbooks for the Win! 📷

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    Pic’s of the family over the years!

    Finally, we wrap up the season by capturing these magical moments in our yearly scrapbooks. Jacob loves them, and they’re not just photo books—they’re memory books. We look back, ask questions, and get ideas for the next year. Sometimes, Jacob even pulls them out to remind me of an upcoming holiday. You can make your own or order them from Shutterfly or Google. https://photos.google.com/photobooks

    So, there you have it—our holiday traditions, fun family activities for the holidays with autism. They may be quirky, messy, and unpredictable, but they’re uniquely ours, and they make our holiday season merry and bright. Remember, it‘s not about perfection; it’s about creating memories and cherishing them forever. #AutismHolidayFun 🎁🌟🎄

    One last thing: MINDSET, Don’t forget, maintaining a positive mindset during the holidays is essential. For more tips on how to do this, you can check out our previous post, Autism and the Holidays: Shaping the Season with a Positive Mindset.

    If you want more tips check out the ebook!👉  https://educatingjacob.myflodesk.com/tfgvkumbkg

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    Educating Jacob: The Power of Communication in Autism Spectrum Disorder

    Communication in Autism Spectrum Disorder

    Jake's clothes for going out!
    These clothes are for going out and sensory friendly.

    Communication in autism spectrum disorder plays a vital role in our Jacob’s ability to express himself. In our daily lives with Jacob, schedules allow us to communicate with him, connect him with others, and navigate the world around him.

    Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) is a developmental disorder that affects communication and social interaction skills, making it difficult for those with ASD to effectively express their thoughts, feelings, and needs.🌟

    The Challenge of Communication in Autism

    For my son Jacob, communication has always been a significant hurdle. From a young age, he struggled to convey his needs and emotions, leading to frustration and meltdowns. As parents of children with autism, we understand the heartache of seeing our children struggle to be understood. 💔 But there is hope and immense power in finding the right tools and strategies to help them communicate.

    Methods of Communication in Autism Spectrum Disorder

    There are various methods and strategies that can help individuals with ASD enhance their communication skills, fostering greater independence, understanding, and inclusion. Here are some of the tools that have made a difference in Jacob’s life:

    AAC Devices

    Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC) devices have been game-changers for many children with autism. These devices range from simple picture boards to sophisticated speech-generating devices. 🗣️🔊

    Jacob used Proloquo2Go on his iPad, but we couldn’t get him to use it consistently, so simple visual schedules and ASL were the winners for us!

    Sign Language

    Should you use sign language with your child with autism?
    Using Sign Language helped to build Jacob’s vocabulary! https://www.facebook.com/1584731983/videos/1116777432916450/

    Sign language is another powerful tool. Teaching Jacob sign language not only helped him communicate his needs but also reduced his frustration. The physical act of signing gave him an alternative way to express himself when verbal communication was challenging. 🤟

    The act of signing allowed Jacob to speak the words we were signing without overwhelming him with language. We were speaking with our hands, and since he understood the signs, he was happy and avoided emotional meltdowns—a win-win! 3 ways American Sign Language helped my son with autism speak in short sentences?

    Social Stories

    Social stories have been instrumental in helping Jacob understand social cues and navigate different situations. These personalized short stories describe social situations and appropriate responses, giving Jacob a script to follow and easing his anxiety. 📖🧩

    We use social stories and videos for everything—going to the dentist, doctor, or vacation. Social stories, pictures, visual schedules, and movies are immediately understood by Jacob and are enjoyable for him!

    Independence and Communication in ASD

    For Jacob, every new way he learns to communicate opens up his world a little more, fostering greater independence and inclusion. 🌍💬

    Breaking Barriers with Communication

    Join us as we delve into the transformative power of communication for those on the autism spectrum. From AAC devices to sign language to social stories, there are a multitude of tools and techniques that can empower individuals with ASD to communicate effectively and have their voices heard. By exploring and implementing these strategies, we can help our children break barriers and thrive in their own unique ways. 🌈💪

    Challenges Faced by Individuals with ASD in Communication

    Individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorder often face a range of challenges when it comes to communication. These challenges can vary in severity and can significantly impact an individual’s ability to effectively express themselves and engage with others. 🌐🗣️

    Non-Verbal Communication

    One of the primary communication challenges for individuals with ASD is the difficulty in understanding and interpreting social cues and non-verbal communication. Individuals with ASD may struggle to recognize facial expressions, tone of voice, and body language, which are crucial components of effective communication. This can lead to misunderstandings and difficulties in initiating and maintaining conversations. 😕🤷‍♀️

    Example: For Jacob, this meant missing out on the subtleties of social interactions, often leading to frustration for both him and those trying to communicate with him.

    Engaging in Reciprocal Communication

    Another common challenge is the ability to engage in reciprocal communication. Individuals with ASD may have difficulty taking turns in a conversation, maintaining eye contact, and responding appropriately to social interactions. This can make it challenging for them to build and maintain meaningful relationships with others. 🔄👀

    Example: Jacob often found it hard to keep a conversation going, which sometimes made social interactions feel one-sided or awkward.

    Understanding Social Cues in Autism Spectrum Disorder

    Additionally, individuals with ASD may have difficulties in understanding and using language effectively. They may struggle with vocabulary, grammar, and the pragmatic aspects of language, such as using language in a socially appropriate manner. This can result in difficulties in expressing their thoughts, feelings, and needs, leading to frustration and isolation. 📚🗣️

    Example: Jacob’s language delays meant that even simple exchanges could be challenging, making it hard for him to convey his needs or participate fully in conversations.

    Sensory Processing Challenges

    Furthermore, individuals with ASD may experience sensory processing challenges that can impact their communication abilities. Certain sounds, textures, or environments may be overwhelming, making it difficult for them to focus on and engage in conversations. 🔊🚫

    Example: Jacob found noisy environments particularly challenging, which often caused him to withdraw from social settings.

    Communication Strategies for Individuals with ASD

    Individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) face a range of communication challenges, but with the right strategies and support, they can develop and enhance their communication skills. Here are some effective communication strategies that have benefited Jacob and can help other individuals with ASD:

    Visual Supports

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    Jacob has sensory friendly clothes, school work in zippered bags and headphones!

    Incorporating visual aids, such as pictures, symbols, or schedules, can help individuals with ASD better understand and express themselves. Visual supports provide a clear and concrete way for them to communicate their needs, preferences, and ideas. 🖼️📊

    We use a visual schedule for Jacob to help him understand his daily activities and reduce anxiety. This method has significantly improved his ability to transition between tasks and communicate his needs. Here is good podcast on visual schedules and speech: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/263-slp-coffee-talk-57469512/episode/visual-supports-can-create-predictable-systems-101691070/

    Structured Routines and Predictability

    Establishing predictable routines and schedules can help individuals with ASD feel more secure and comfortable, which can, in turn, facilitate better communication. By providing a structured environment, individuals with ASD can better anticipate and navigate social interactions. 📅🔄

    Jacob thrives on routine. Having a consistent schedule helps him know what to expect each day, making it easier for him to engage in conversations and social activities. Beyond the Chaos: Scheduling 101 Class for Special Needs Children

    Simplifying Language

    Using clear, concise, and age-appropriate language can help individuals with ASD understand and respond more effectively. Avoiding complex sentences, idioms, and abstract concepts can make communication more accessible and meaningful. 🗣️✂️

    Example: We keep our language simple when communicating with Jacob. Short, direct sentences help him understand and respond better, reducing misunderstandings.

    Allowing Time for Processing

    Individuals with ASD may need more time to process information and formulate their responses. Providing them with ample time to respond, without interrupting or rushing them, can create a more comfortable and supportive communication environment. ⏳🕒

    When asking Jacob a question, we give him extra time to think and respond. This patience allows him to communicate more effectively and confidently.

    Reinforcing Positive Communication

    Positively reinforcing and acknowledging successful communication attempts, no matter how small, can help build confidence and encourage individuals with ASD to continue developing their communication skills. 🌟👍

    Positive reinforcement has been key in building Jacob’s confidence.

    Incorporating Interests and Passions

    Engaging individuals with ASD in conversations about their interests can help them feel more motivated to communicate. Look for ways to provide opportunities for them to share their unique perspectives and experiences. 🎨🚀

    Jacob loves talking about movies and music. Incorporating these topics into our conversations keeps him engaged and eager to communicate.

    Modeling Appropriate Communication

    Demonstrating and modeling appropriate social and communication skills can help individuals with ASD learn and practice these skills in a supportive environment. 📚👨‍🏫

    We use social stories for Jacob, and model taking turns in conversation and using polite language. He prefers movie quotes!

    Empowering Communication for All

    By implementing these communication strategies, individuals with ASD can develop the skills and confidence needed to express themselves 🌟🗣️

    Want more? We are dedicated to sharing our journey and strategies to help other parents navigate the complexities of autism. Download the ebook:👇  https://educatingjacob.myflodesk.com/tfgvkumbkg

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    Ways to have peace? Creating time for yourself, not just your child with autism.

    Welcome to the chaotic yet rewarding journey of parenting a child with autism while creating time for yourself! 🌟 As parents, we often find ourselves tirelessly dedicated to meeting our children’s needs, especially when they require extra support and attention. But amidst the hustle and bustle of daily life, it’s easy to forget one essential component: ourselves.

    Trying to find an Honest Man in Congress

    I’ll be the first to admit, finding time for self-care as a parent of a child with autism can feel like trying to find an honest man in congress. 🧵 But after years of juggling appointments, therapies, and meltdowns, I’ve come to realize that carving out moments of peace for myself is not only beneficial—it’s downright essential.

    Creating Time for Yourself

    In this blog post, I’m excited to share my journey of discovering the importance of self-care and finding peace amidst the chaos of raising a child with autism. So let’s find the humor and practical tips, let’s embark on this adventure together and uncover the joys of creating time for ourselves, not just our children. 💆‍♀️

    Grab Your Favorite Mug

    #coffeeandabook, to relax and unwind I love coffee and a book!
    #coffeeandabook

    So grab your favorite mug of coffee (or tea, I won’t judge!), find a cozy spot to sit back, and let’s dive into the wonderful world of self-care for autism parents. Because trust me, you deserve it! I’m trying not to look at the calories in this Starbucks cup. 🍵✨

    The Wonderful World of Parent Swaps
    Pictures of mom and the boys!
    Mom and I always babysat for each other!

    Ah, the wonderful world of parent swaps—where exhaustion meets camaraderie, and sanity is traded like currency. 😅 Back when my mom was still alive, and I was knee-deep in the trenches of parenting with two small kids, one of whom had autism, we had a beautiful arrangement…

    I would help with my dad, he had COPD and needed assistance in the end years. I also, needed moments of running errands without two small children all over me! It was a great time, I loved spending time with my dad and my mom and dad loved spending time with their grandchildren. Win-Win!

    Discovering Peace Amidst the Chaos

    Yet, amidst the chaos and unexpected turns of life, I’ve found peace. 🕊️ I’ve come to accept our journey for what it is and embrace the support system that surrounds us. But perhaps the most significant lesson I’ve learned is this: I need more than just making my son’s life better…

    Prioritizing Spiritual Nourishment
    #blessed
    Trying to keep God first, not just when things go wrong.

    Without dedicating time to nurture my spiritual life, I find myself swimming in a sea of stress and discontent. 🌊 It’s like trying to navigate without a compass—I lose my sense of direction and purpose. So, I make it a priority to carve out moments for prayer, meditation, and reflection…

    Balancing Exercise and Indulgence

    As for exercise, well, let’s just say menopause has hit me like a ton of bricks. 💪 I’m still working on finding the perfect balance between staying active and indulging in a few too many comfort foods. But I’ve come to realize that moving my body and fueling it with nourishing foods are essential…

    Sprinkles on Life’s Sundae

    And let’s not forget about fun and creative activities—they’re like the sprinkles on top of life’s sundae. 🍦 Whether it’s painting, gardening, or belting out karaoke tunes in the living room, these moments of joy keep me feeling young at heart and connected to my inner child… Jacob and David are the DJ’s in the music department. Look at last weeks post on adding a little fun to a gloomy day!

    The Recipe for a Fulfilling Life

    But here’s the thing: it’s not just about me. It’s about ensuring that my entire family—Jacob included—has access to these essential ingredients for a fulfilling life. As the mom, I often find myself playing the role of chief nurturer, ensuring everyone’s needs are met…

    My husband David is great and does his part for the family and supports me too, but I will get lost in the details and plan without time for myself.

    Join the Journey

    So, here’s the game plan: we all need spiritual nourishment, regular exercise, and plenty of fun and creative outlets. It’s the recipe for a life well-lived, ensuring that each member of the family has the tools they need to thrive. 🌟

    We are all trying to include all of these areas into our schedules so that we are all working and fulfilled. 

    Let’s Laugh, Learn, and Dance

    Join me on this journey of creating time for yourself and self-care, where we’ll laugh, learn, and maybe even bust a few dance moves along the way. After all, life’s too short to forget about the most important things that make life worthwhile. 💃✨

    #autismchallenges🧩

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