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    3 Tips for Teaching Chores to a Child on the Autism Spectrum!

    Weekly Chore Chart
    Example of weekly chore chart

    Child on the Autism Spectrum

    Parenting takes us on an adventure with twists, turns, and unexpected challenges. If you’ve ever found yourself negotiating with laundry piles or tackling an overflowing trash can, you’re not alone. The journey becomes even more unique when guiding a child on the autism spectrum through responsibilities. Meet Jacob, my ADHD son, who loves TV shows, dining out, and ordering movies from Amazon or eBay from 10 years ago. But what about chores? Could Jacob, with sensory sensitivities and autism, find joy in the realm of tasks most children dread? The answer is a resounding yes. Our story isn’t just about chores; it’s about empowerment and everyday victories that bridge his world and ours.

    The Power of Visual Schedules

    The zippered bags contain school work and a short book to read.
    Jacob’s daily school bags for the week!

    Imagine a canvas splashed with vibrant colors and images that promise adventure. This is a visual schedule, a magical compass guiding your child through chores. For Jacob, it transformed chores into thrilling quests, easing sensory sensitivities and providing control.

    The zippered bags in the picture contain school work, chapter books and word-finds he likes to complete. The larger garment bags are clothes that are clean and ready for that particular day of the week that he has washed and hung up as part of his weekly chores. They are now ready to put in his weekly schedule.

    Jacob with laundry, dishes and movies when chores are done.
    Chores and movie when complete!

    Turning Tasks into Adventures

    Harnessing imagination turned chores into adventures. Each task became a noble mission – dishes to be vanquished, laundry as a portal to accomplishment. Jacob embraced his role as the “Kitchen Crusader,” his sense of responsibility blooming.

    Jake is a cleaning ninja when he knows Mrs. Gwen will be watching him the next morning. I will hear him in the kitchen doing dishes at 10 p.m. so the sink is empty when she shows up. He will come and tell me “Mrs. Gwen” when he’s finished! That’s my cue to say, okay I will tell Mrs. Gwen you did a great job on your chores today. He wants her approval and to make a fuss over him and tell him “Good job Jake!”

    Giving rewards for tasks and chores completed
    Give rewards for tasks and chores completed!

    Rewards and Celebrations

    Every adventure deserves a treasure. A chest of movies awaited Jacob, a reward for dedication to chores. Set achievable goals, celebrate victories, and let joy ripple through every chore conquered.

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    Celebrate all tasks and chores completed!

    Unveiling the Symphony of Chore Magic

    Teaching chores to an autism spectrum child is a harmonious note in the symphony of parenting. Chores aren’t just tasks; they’re stepping stones to empowerment, unity, and growth. Embrace visual schedules, turn chores into quests, celebrate with rewards. Jacob, the “Kitchen Crusader,” conquers not just chores, but life itself. As parents, we hold the wand, guiding our children through responsibilities. Let chore time be where unity and growth dance in every step. The adventure has begun! How Jacob has success daily without anxiety. #autismchallenges

     

    Consistency is Key

     

    For children on the autism spectrum, consistency provides a sense of security and predictability. This is crucial in helping them manage their tasks and responsibilities.

     

    Establishing Routine

     

    Make chores a part of their daily or weekly routine. Use visual schedules to outline what needs to be done and when. For Jacob, seeing his tasks laid out clearly helps him understand what is expected and reduces anxiety.

    Download my eBook for more tips: https://educatingjacob.myflodesk.com/tfgvkumbkg

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    Can Medications for Children on the Autism Spectrum Help? Pros, and Cons

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    Jacob needs medication for epilepsy and sometimes a sleep aid.

    Jacob’s Journey

    Let me introduce you to Jacob – my son, and the inspiration behind Educating Jacob. Jacob takes medication for epilepsy, a vital step to prevent seizures that could lead to dangerous falls and other injuries. His journey, like every child’s, is unique. Let’s discuss taking medication for children on the autism spectrum disorder and the pros and cons.

    Jacob is also identified as having ADHD, and while we tried medication to manage his symptoms, the pros didn’t outweigh the cons in his case. While the medication helped focus and processing, it also had side effects like reduced appetite and mood changes. Balancing these factors was challenging, especially regarding his interactions with family and the community. He was grumpy and short tempered while taking the medicine so it wasn’t benefiting Jake or those around him.

    The Complex Landscape of Medication Use

    I’ve witnessed both successes and challenges with children using medications in school settings. Each child responds differently, as parents and advocates, deciding on medication is a deeply personal choice. The idea of medicating our children can be overwhelming, and rightfully so. It’s crucial to carefully weigh the potential benefits and drawbacks before making any decisions.

    Medications’ Impact on Communication and Learning

    For some children, medications can be instrumental in addressing communication and learning challenges. ADHD medications, for instance, can help calm a chaotic mind, allowing the child to learn, focus, and process information effectively. This can be especially beneficial in educational environments where structured learning is essential.

    Black eye as a result of fall from seizure
    Black eye the result of a fall from a seizure.

    Practical Suggestions

    I’m eager to share some practical suggestions that can help parents navigate this complex territory:

    1. Consult:  Consulting healthcare experts with experience in treating children on the autism spectrum can be difficult for parents to find. Their expertise is invaluable in making well-informed decisions. Having said this your voice counts! Make sure you and your child’s doctor are on the same page and have the same goals. I paid for a consult with Jacob’s doctor so that he would know our needs before choosing him as his doctor. I know doctor visits aren’t typically easy with our kids so here’s a link to blog post that might help:https://educatingjacob.com/child-on-the-autism-spectrum-navigate-doctor-visits/
    2. Holistic Assessment: Gain a comprehensive understanding of your child’s needs through thorough assessment. Consider conditions such as ADHD, anxiety, and epilepsy for a holistic approach. 
    3. Benefits vs. Risks: Talk with your child’s doctor about medication’s potential benefits and risks. Understand what to anticipate, including potential side effects. Remember that “natural” doesn’t mean safe or harmless without considering other factors such as other medications and that anything taken into the body must be processed through the liver, gut, etc.
    4. Tailored Approach: Acknowledge that medication effects vary significantly among children. Be patient and willing to explore different options while closely monitoring your child’s progress.
    5. Start Gradually: To minimize potential side effects and assess your child’s response, introduce medication at a low dose and gradually increase it. I would start Jake on one new drug or supplement at a time to know the cause of a behavior/body change. If you start more than one thing at a time, you won’t know specifically what caused the change you wanted or didn’t want.

      A Journey of Adjustments

      Jacob’s experience also sheds light on the ongoing adjustments that can be necessary when it comes to medications. The medicines he takes for seizures require periodic changes, and this process can be daunting. There was a two-year period where it felt like our family was in turmoil due to medication adjustments. It’s a reminder that this journey is not linear; it’s filled with ups and downs that we navigate to ensure the best outcomes for our children.

      Medications for Children on the Autism Spectrum: A Complex Landscape

      When I think about my own son Jacob, his journey has been a mix of triumphs and learning experiences. Jacob takes medications for epilepsy, and sometimes, melatonin to help with sleep issues. The reasons for introducing medications can vary, and in Jacob’s case, it’s to prevent seizures that could result in him getting hurt from falls. However, Jacob’s story is not uncommon – many children on the autism spectrum require medications to manage various conditions.

      Your Child’s Unique Journey

      Navigating medications for children on the autism spectrum is a deeply personal and intricate process. Jacob’s story and the insights shared here underscore the importance of an individualized approach. The ultimate goal is to enhance your child’s quality of life, enabling them to flourish and reach their full potential. Remember, you’re not alone on this journey. You can make decisions that make a difference by staying informed, seeking guidance, and advocating for your child’s best interests.

      Remember, some alternatives may help or even remove the need for medications you can consider diet, exercise, and behavior therapies. Jacob’s diet and exercise were better alternatives for his ADHD than the medication due to side effects. We are all unique and complex, so be safe and do your research!

      If you’re looking for more guidance on this journey, please reach out to Educating Jacob. Our mission is to help families and teachers navigate the challenges of life with children on the autism spectrum, from meltdowns to moments of triumph. Let’s learn and grow together.

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    3 ways to help your child on the autism spectrum navigate doctor visits more smoothly

    Introduction to Jacob of Educating Jacob
    Introducing, Jacob, he has a learning disability called autism.

    3 ways to help your child on the autism spectrum navigate doctor visits more smoothly 

    Navigating doctor visits with a child on the autism spectrum can feel like a battlefield. The meltdowns and sensory overload can create a storm of stress and uncertainty. But guess what? You’re not alone, and there are ways to turn this challenging experience into a smoother one. Let’s delve into a comprehensive guide on how to make doctor visits easier for your child on the autism spectrum.

    Preparation and using visuals for dental visit for you child on the autism spectrum
    Use visuals, role playing and simple language to prepare for the visit.

    Preparation and Visuals

    First, you should, Prepare in Advance. Inform your child about the upcoming doctor’s appointment in advance. Use simple language and provide details about what to expect during the visit. You can search you tube for videos showing the type of doctor you’re going to see. Or you can make a video with your spouse or another family member on what to do when visiting the doctor.

    Use Visual Supports: Utilize visual schedules, social stories, or picture cards to help your child understand the sequence of events during the appointment. Visual aids can reduce anxiety and provide a sense of predictability.

    Role-Play: Role-play the doctor visit at home, taking turns being the doctor and the patient. This practice can familiarize your child with the process and ease their apprehension. We did this and it really helped with the dental visit. You can buy the cleaning kits for dental checks in the store. We had the little mirror and the scraper to use on Jacob, he laid on the couch and we checked his teeth and just got him used to the tools being used.

    Discuss Sensory Issues with the Doctor: Share your child's sensory sensitivities with the doctor, so they can accommodate their needs during the examination.
    Sensory processing can be a big issue for individuals on the autism spectrum.

    Sensory Considerations

     Second, you should consider: a Sensory-Friendly Environment: If possible, request a sensory-friendly waiting area or examination room for your child. Dim lighting, comfortable seating, and quiet spaces can make the experience more comfortable. Back when Jacob was diagnosed on the spectrum they did not exist in my area. We now have theaters and other businesses that are trying to include our children but I didn’t know of any when he was younger. I would take a bag with sensory items, tablets, books, coloring books etc. 

     Bring Comfort Items: Allow your child to bring their favorite comfort items, such as a stuffed animal or fidget toy, to help them feel more at ease during the appointment. 

     Discuss Sensory Issues with the Doctor: Share your child’s sensory sensitivities with the doctor, so they can accommodate their needs during the examination.

    Tip for Post-Visit Reward: Plan a fun activity or special treat after the appointment to create a positive association with doctor visit.
    Include a Post-Visit Reward

    Communication and Reinforcement

    Third, you need Clear Communication: Communicate with the doctor about your child’s unique needs and challenges. Collaborate with the doctor to ensure a patient-centered approach that respects your child’s sensitivities. When Jacob was small his doctor barely knew him because I was given other doctors to see when the appointment rolled around. I paid for a consultation visit and only saw his assigned pediatrician after his diagnosis so that Jacob would have someone who knew him.

    Positive Reinforcement: Offer praise and positive reinforcement during and after the appointment. Celebrate your child’s cooperation, whether it’s for sitting still during an examination or following instructions. 

    Post-Visit Reward: Plan a fun activity or special treat after the appointment to create a positive association with doctor visits and reinforce their good behavior. For successful visits Jacob would get his tablet early that day, plus breakfast or lunch wherever he wanted after the visit if he had behaved appropriately.

    Remember, every child on the autism spectrum is unique, so tailor these strategies to suit your child’s specific needs. With patience, understanding, and support, you can help your child feel more comfortable and confident during doctor visits. I learned very early into the diagnosis that I didn’t want Jacob to be sedated for dental or simple medical procedures (blood work, shots). So that meant I needed schedules and plans ahead of time to help him be successful.

    Jacob’s successful dental visits became possible through gradual exposure. Becoming comfortable with the dental environment prior to the appointment allowed him to navigate the experience with significantly less anxiety.

    Jacob’s story exemplifies how these strategies can transform daunting doctor visits into smoother experiences for children on the spectrum. His journey from anxiety to empowerment showcases the potential of preparation, role-playing, and gradual exposure. By incorporating Jacob’s story, we’re not only offering a real-life illustration but also inspiring parents to embark on this transformative path.

    Smoother Doctor Visits

    Doctor visits no longer need to be a source of dread for your child on the autism spectrum. Through proactive strategies inspired by Jacob’s success, you can pave the way for smoother experiences. Building predictability, embracing familiarity, and harnessing sensory allies empower your child to face doctor visits with newfound confidence. Each step, informed by Jacob’s journey, ensures that your child’s experience is not just manageable but even triumphant. As you navigate this path together, remember that you’re not just shaping doctor visits – you’re nurturing resilience, fostering growth, and ensuring that each appointment becomes a stepping stone toward your child’s journey of empowerment.

    Craft a Roadmap to Success

    By following these steps, you’re crafting a roadmap to successful doctor and dental visits for your child on the spectrum. It’s not just about navigating the challenges; it’s about rewriting the narrative, turning apprehension into empowerment. Need help with schedules? Check out this blog post or visit my website. https://educatingjacob.com/how-to-create-a-personalized-schedule-for-children-with-autism/

    Your journey is guided by empathy, compassion, and a commitment to creating positive experiences. So, let’s navigate those visits together and pave the way for success.

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    3 Practical Tips For Parents To Boost Schoolwork Motivation Using Effective Schedules

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    This is a picture of Jacob’s Monday-Friday zippered pouches that hold his work!

    Hello amazing parents lets discover the power of well-designed schedules to improve schoolwork motivation for children. Here are 3 practical tips to implement structured routines and nurture intrinsic motivation, to support  academic success with confidence:

    1-Engaging and Personalized Schedule Creation

    • Involve the child in creating the homework schedule, include their interests and   preferences.
    • Design the schedule to align with their energy levels and study habits, making it more engaging and motivating.
    • Use visual aids or color-coding to make the schedule visually appealing and easy to follow.

    2-Reward and Recognition System

    • Implement a reward system where completing homework tasks on schedule earns them small incentives or privileges.
    • Praise and recognize their efforts and accomplishments, reinforcing positive behavior and boosting their motivation.
    • Celebrate their progress and improvements regularly, making the experience of following the schedule more fulfilling.

    3-Consistent Support and Encouragement

    • Be actively involved in their homework routine, providing assistance and guidance when needed.
    • Offer consistent encouragement and show belief in their abilities to tackle challenging tasks.
    • Address any obstacles or difficulties they face, fostering a supportive and nurturing environment for learning.
    In the picture below Jacob is drawing after completing a work assignment, the first assignment was math and not that enjoyable but the next thing on this schedule was free time for drawing or watching a movie of his choice.
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    This is Jacob drawing something from a movie cover after homework is complete!

    Understanding Schoolwork Motivation in Children:

    Before delving into the benefits of schedules, you can find a blog post here for a previous blog post: How Can Using Schedules Can Change Your Child’s Life? , it’s essential to grasp the factors influencing a child’s motivation towards schoolwork. Motivation can be intrinsic, driven by a genuine interest in the subject, or extrinsic, fueled by external rewards or pressures. A child’s attitude towards learning and academic success heavily relies on their level of motivation. Therefore, as parents, it is crucial to nurture a healthy balance between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation. Below Jacob has a trip to Barnes and Noble as a reward for completing his work schedule for the week!

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    Jacob having fun at Barnes and Noble after a week of completed work!

    The Power of Schedules in Enhancing Motivation:

    Creating a structured routine for schoolwork and study sessions can work wonders in boosting motivation. A well-thought-out schedule sets clear expectations, helping children understand when and where they should focus on their school tasks. Moreover, it provides a sense of predictability and control, reducing anxiety and creating a conducive learning environment. In the picture below Jacob is much younger and had more sensory and attention issues. This book was part of his daily school work schedule and was put into his work rotation for daily work. You can see he is smiling because he’s used to a schedule and feels confident in meeting my expectations.

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    This is Jacob reading a story book that was in his first_then work schedule!

    Implementing a Schoolwork Schedule: Practical Tips for Parents:

    To implement a schoolwork schedule successfully, parents must consider their child’s preferences and energy levels. See previous blog post: “How To Create A Personalized Schedule For Children With Autism” .  Identifying the best time for study sessions, whether it’s in the morning or after a short break, ensures that children are more engaged and receptive to learning. Moreover, incorporating rewards and positive reinforcement for completing tasks can help create a positive association with schoolwork.

    Nurturing Intrinsic Motivation through a Schedule:

    Beyond the surface benefits of schedules, they can also serve as a tool for nurturing intrinsic or inborn motivation. By encouraging curiosity, allowing self-directed learning, and fostering a growth mindset, we can as parents can instill a love for learning within their children. A schedule that supports intrinsic motivation will help children become self-driven learners who actively seek knowledge and embrace challenges. Jacob had things in his early work schedules that played to his strengths, there was little verbal instructions. I would use a picture schedule and the work expected had a picture that showed what was expected of him. Examples would be: a picture of a snowman and play doh colors so he could create what he saw. You are trying to use things that your child likes and engages their strengths and curiosity. 

    As parents, we have the power to shape our children’s school journey positively.

    In conclusion, by including daily schedules into your child’s homework routine, you can witness remarkable improvements in their motivation and academic performance. Understanding the importance of motivation and how schedules empower your child is the first step towards a successful learning journey. Daily schedules bring structure and predictability to homework time, making it a positive and rewarding experience. As you involve your child in creating and implementing the schedule, celebrate their achievements and provide support, you’ll see their motivation soar. Together, let’s set them up for a bright future filled with academic achievements and a love for learning!

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