Independence

  • Games, TV and Cell Phones. 3 ways we use to strike a balance for our autistic son.

     

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    Watching movies, games and his phone had Jacob stuck in a loop.

    Screen Time for Autistic Children ๐Ÿ“บ๐Ÿ“ฑ๐Ÿ•น๏ธ

     

    Screen time for autistic children in today’s digital age.ย  A waltz of wires, pixels, and the occasional meltdown thrown in for good measure. As parents, we’re all familiar with the perplexing puzzle of balancing our children’s love for games, TV, and cell phones, especially when they come with a side order of learning disabilities. Balancing screen time for autistic children can be a unique challenge, but it’s a necessary one. Hereโ€™s an article warning of screen hazards: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10442849/

    Screen time, autism, and childhood development!

    Now, I know what you’re thinking โ€“ “Screen time is the nemesis of childhood development!” Trust me; I’ve read the articles, heard the warnings, and contemplated creating a bonfire with every device in the house just to free our kids from their pixelated prisons.

     

    But here’s the twist in our tale: I’ve also stumbled upon studies suggesting that video games can miraculously morph into concentration enhancers for our ADHD champs. Oh, and let’s not forget the cautionary tales of phones, iPads, and games birthing OCD tendencies.

     

    Enter Jacob, my youngest progeny, who is legally an adult but will stick around with family until heaven is our permanent address. My husband and I, well, let’s just say we’re charter members of the “How Do We Adult When Our Kid Is a Permanent Resident of Autism” club.

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    It was a sad day but necessary!

    The Solution: Saying Goodbye to iGadgets ๐Ÿšซ๐Ÿ“ฑ

     

    The solution was as simple as a triumphant exit for the iPhone and iPad โ€“ two devices that Jacob clung to with the ferocity of a squirrel protecting its nut stash. Why, you ask? Well, for starters, our beloved iGadgets couldn’t differentiate between age-appropriate entertainment and YouTube’s greatest hits of “Movie Voiceover Catastrophes.”

     

    Snippets of perfectly decent films transformed into bizarre voiceovers that would leave even Darth Vader scratching his helmeted head being consumed by our son on the autism spectrum. After years of tireless monitoring, debates, and the occasional eye roll from our tech-savvy son, we decided to go medieval on those devices.

     

    Screen Time as a Welcomed Guest ๐ŸŽฎ๐Ÿ“บ

    Now, before you peg me as a screen time Scrooge, let me clarify โ€“ we’re all about balance, folks. Jacob loves the predictability of his games and movies, but like a squirrel fixated on that nut stash, he can get a tad obsessed.

     

    So, we embark on a quest for equilibrium, where balancing screen time for autistic children becomes a welcomed guest in Jacob’s daily schedule, not the puppeteer pulling all the strings.

     

    Let’s dive right into the chaotic realm of screen time, where YouTube voiceovers reign supreme, sarcasm flows like a never-ending river, and emotions take center stage. Picture this: Jacob would merrily parrot inappropriate voiceovers from movie clips he’d stumble upon in the depths of YouTube.

     

    You know, the clips that sneakily infiltrate even the most kid-friendly content. To make matters even more interesting, he’d not only repeat the lines but also wear the emotions like a hat.

     

    Now, this might sound like an amusing party trick for your average teenager, but for Jacob, who grapples with emotion regulation difficulties courtesy of his learning disabilities, it was like a comedy show gone awry.

     

    Sarcasm and emotional mimicry? Well, they don’t quite fit the bill for a kid navigating the complexities of his own emotions. So, we had to bid farewell to YouTube and its unexpected voiceover adventures.

    Screen Time and Removing iPhone and iPad

    Next up on our journey: Jacob’s affinity for the iPhone. He would rise at the crack of dawn and make a beeline for his cherished device. At first, it was innocent enough โ€“ just a little music to set the morning mood. Christian tunes from the Newsboys, classics from the Eagles, and the uplifting melodies of MercyMe filled our home.

     

    But here’s the catch: YouTube was always just a click away, and on his device, we couldn’t effectively filter the content.

     

    In an ideal world, he’d have a dose of music during the day, tackle his schoolwork and chores, and enjoy the iPad, TV, or games during his well-deserved downtime in the evening. However, what ensued was a full-blown obsession with the phone and iPad, and it wasn’t all smooth sailing.

     

    The lack of parental controls, combined with a sudden onset of attitude issues and an unsettling penchant for repeating the aforementioned sarcastic voiceovers, led us to a decision โ€“ those devices had to go.

    Finding Alternative Devices

    With a heavy heart, we waved goodbye to the iPhone and iPad, and in their place, we introduced the Kindle tablet.

    Jacob wasn’t exactly thrilled with the switch, but necessity often breeds adaptation. The Kindle offered us better controls and access to Amazon Prime movies and Kindle books โ€“ a trade-off that Jacob eventually came to appreciate.

     

    You see, movies and games were more than just entertainment for Jacob. They were a vital part of his life, a means of communication, and a source of shared laughter within our family. We wanted to nurture these positives and, in turn, steer clear of the negatives.

     

    With the Kindle, we even had the power to program specific times for movies, ensuring a balanced approach to screen time.ย How my husband changes Jacobโ€™s bad mood with music! #musicandautism.

    Strategies for Achieving Balance

     

    Now, let’s get to the crux of the matter โ€“ how do we strike that elusive balance between screen time and the real world?

     

    Monitoring: Jacob might be older, but that doesn’t mean we can let our guard down. His emotional regulation quirks are still very much a part of his daily life. If he immerses himself in a movie or show, he becomes it, quirks and all.

     

    Limiting: By limiting his screen time and offering alternative activities, we’ve witnessed a remarkable transformation. He’s no longer a device-clinging zealot but a much happier individual with a broader spectrum of interests.

     

    Scheduling: Finally, we integrate screen time into Jacob’s daily schedule, just like any other activity.

     

    Jacob thrives on balance and predictability, and our schedules provide just that.

    A Balanced Approach to Screen Time ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ•น๏ธ

     

    Monitoring, limiting, and scheduling screen time have all contributed to our collective success as a family. With vigilant monitoring, we were able to identify and address issues, leading us to bid adieu to the iPhone and iPad in favor of the Kindle tablet.

     

    Limiting screen time curbed obsessive tendencies, helping Jacob understand the importance of a diversified day.

     

    Finally, incorporating it all into a daily schedule bestowed upon him the predictability he so dearly craved, fostering independence and a sense of accomplishment. Want more download the ebook:ย https://educatingjacob.myflodesk.com/tfgvkumbkg

     

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  • 3 Simple ways to use choices to make connections and learning fun for those on Autism Spectrum!

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    This is a picture of Jacob’s Monday-Friday zippered pouches that hold his school work!

    First, I created schedules for Jacob so that he could choose the order in which they were completed. Second, Jacob could choose what activities he wanted to do once the schedule was done. Third, by using schedules with built-in choices, I gave Jacob the predictability and structure that he needs to keep anxiety and emotional regulation in check. ๐Ÿ“…โœ…

    Choices are like the secret weapons in our arsenal of connection and learning, especially when it comes to navigating the labyrinth of the autism spectrum. If you’re on this roller coaster of a ride, you know that sometimes it’s like having Darth Vader unexpectedly show up in a rom-com movie โ€“ a mix of surprises, challenges, and a few laughs along the way. ๐ŸŽข๐Ÿงฉ๐Ÿ˜„

    Jacob’s Journey: From Chore Dread to Delight

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    Celebrate all tasks and chores completed!

    Enter Jacob, our household hero ๐Ÿฆธโ€โ™‚๏ธ who embarked on a chore journey that promised both epic battles and heartwarming victories. Picture this: the first time we floated the idea of chores, I was half-expecting dramatic background music ร  la Darth Vader’s theme โ€“ because, let’s be honest, even chores can feel like an intergalactic quest. ๐ŸŽถ๐ŸŒŒ

    Armed with Patience, Creativity, and Humor

    But fear not, fellow adventurers, because we faced this challenge armed with an unshakable combo of patience, creativity, and yes, a touch of humor. With lightsabers… okay, maybe not actual lightsabers, but definitely a light-hearted approach, we ventured to transform Jacob’s perspective on chores from dread to delight. ๐Ÿ’กโœจ๐Ÿ˜„

    Transforming Mundane Tasks into Cosmic Missions

    At the core of this transformation were three simple yet potent tips that held the power to rewrite the chore playbook. We delved into the world of schedules, weaving choices into Jacob’s day that resonated with his quest for predictability. These choices became more than just checkboxes; they were his way of cracking the code of the world around him, a chance to have his say in the grand cosmic dance. ๐Ÿ“…โœ…๐ŸŒŸ

    Empowerment Through Choice: A Path to Connection

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    Use schedules with built in choice for connection and learning!

    Jacob has problems with receptive and expressive language. Having a conversation isnโ€™t happening, and he will shut down because it takes too long to process. He loves movies and quotes from them because they say the same thing every time. Speaking with a person is different every time. ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ๐Ÿค๐ŸŽฌ

    Schedules are short, sweet and easy for Jacob to understand! It eases his anxiety for the day and gives him the predictability he needs to help regulate his emotions. ๐Ÿ“…โœจ๐Ÿ˜Œ

    Choices at Home: More Than Chores

    Giving Jacob choices in the form of visuals, or a schedule where he can choose when to complete something during his day makes him empowered and confident. It also makes him happy and connected with me for helping him understand. It also shows I care to include the choices he enjoys along with chores that need to be done as part of the family. ๐ŸŽจโฐ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ

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    This is Jacob drawing something from a movie cover after homework is complete!
    Choices at School: Bridging Learning and Connection ๐Ÿซ

    At school during the day, Iโ€™m a special education teacher. I give my students schedules based on their present level in academic areas, and choices after the work are based on their preferences. ๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿซ

    Creating Independence and Connection ๐ŸŒŸ

    If they complete my work, they are allowed to do activities that are more to their liking. They are more willing to do my work and are happy to come to my room for work when they feel they will have a say in what happens there. ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ˜Š

    If you are looking for something just for your child on the spectrum you might look into activities like summer camp through the Autism Society. Check out this post:ย https://www.bloglovin.com/blogs/embracing-spectrum-12194587/winning-lottery-2729998147

    Jacob’s Journey: Visual Schedules and Independence ๐Ÿ›ค๏ธ

    In the beginning of Jacobโ€™s journey, in order to get Jacob to understand his day, we used visual schedules. His day was a series of pictures that told him what to do; he also had pictures of activities that he loved to do placed in between work or chores to keep him happy and moving through the day. ๐Ÿ–ผ๏ธ๐Ÿ•’

    Nee help with schedules? Check out this post:ย Help! 3 Ways a schedule can help sensory issues and communication barriers? #Autism Challenges๐Ÿงฉ

    From Dread to Delight: The Power of Choice ๐Ÿ’ก

    This allowed me as a mom to take a breath and do my own chores. After all, our job is to create independent humans! The mother bear in me wanted to protect and keep him happy, but the tired, worn-out momma needed him to learn and start becoming independent without being a โ€œmeโ€ monster no one wanted to be around. ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ค

    Three Simple Strategies for Choices and Connection ๐Ÿ”„

    1. I created schedules with work, and he was able to choose the order in which he completed them. โœ…
    2. After the work he chose was completed, Jacob could choose what activities he wanted to do. ๐ŸŽจ๐ŸŽฎ
    3. By using schedules and built-in choices, I gave Jacob predictability and structure that he needs to keep anxiety and emotional regulation in check. ๐Ÿ—“๏ธ

    Embrace the Adventure of Choices
    So, prepare to embark on a journey where choices light up the path and humor is our trusty sidekick. Life is a series of choices, and each choice has the potential to create ripples of change. So, are you ready to wield your lightsaber of choice and embrace the adventure? Let’s do this! ๐ŸŒŸ๐Ÿ’ซ

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