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  • Tired and Frustrated Mom! Sensory Challenges for the Autism Spectrum

    Tired and frustrated shows up for all moms
    Tired and frustrated? Try something new, create a schedule!

    Tired and Frustrated Mom!

    Picture this: It’s a sunny afternoon, and I’m gearing up for what most people would consider a mundane task—cutting Jacob’s hair. But let me assure you, when it comes to Jacob, even the simplest tasks have the potential to rival a Hollywood blockbuster.

     

    As I approach him with the scissors in hand, it’s as if I’m about to face the final showdown with a galactic villain. Will he embrace this haircutting quest with the grace of a Jedi, or will it turn into a dramatic performance worthy of an Oscar?

    This is not Jacob pictured but the crying is what happened when haircuts first started!
    This is not Jacob pictured but the crying is what happened when haircuts first started!

    Hygiene, haircuts, nails, shaving, and clothes—these daily routines that most of us take for granted are an entirely different universe for Jacob. Sensory challenges are his constant companions, making these tasks feel like epic battles. But fear not, for we have a secret weapon: the power of schedules. Not sure about schedules check out this post: https://educatingjacob.com/how-using-schedules-can-change-your-childs-life/

    In this journey, I’ll share with you the humorous yet practical strategies we’ve learned along the way. Together, we’ll explore how to turn everyday routines into manageable missions, conquer sensory sensitivities, and empower children like Jacob to navigate the world of hygiene with confidence.

    So, fasten your seatbelts, tired travelers. We’re about to embark on an extraordinary expedition through the sensory cosmos. Welcome to the world of Jacob, where choices, routines, and a sprinkle of humor light the way to success in the realm of hygiene, haircuts, nails, shaving, and clothes.

    Sensory Challenges and Autism Spectrum

    Trying to keep up with everything among meltdowns and an endless to do list!
    Trying to keep up with everything among meltdowns and an endless to do list!

    I’ll be the first to admit that when I first started this journey with Jacob, I often found myself feeling like a tired and frustrated mom. The sensory challenges that come with autism can be overwhelming. It’s like trying to solve a puzzle while blindfolded, with the pieces constantly changing shape.

    One of our greatest challenges was navigating Jacob’s sensory sensitivities when it came to basic hygiene routines. Let’s dive into the world of sensory challenges, shall we?

    Haircuts: A Battle of Epic Proportions

    Imagine trying to cut the hair of a child who is hypersensitive to touch and sound. For Jacob, haircuts were akin to entering the lair of a fire-breathing dragon. The slightest snip of the scissors could send him into a tailspin of sensory overload. But, as every hero knows, the best way to conquer a dragon is with a well-thought-out strategy.

    We decided to put haircuts on a schedule. Not just any schedule, mind you, but a visual one that Jacob could understand. This transformed the dreaded haircut into a predictable event, and predictability is the shield against sensory chaos.

    Manicures: Navigating Tactile Sensitivities

    Manicures, with their clippers and nail files, presented another sensory battlefield. Jacob’s tactile sensitivities made these seemingly simple tasks feel like climbing Mount Everest barefoot. But we weren’t about to back down from this challenge.

    We integrated manicures into our routine, always at a time when Jacob felt most comfortable. The tactile experiences were paired with his favorite sensory activities, turning nail care into an adventure rather than an ordeal.

    Shaving: The Quest for Sensory-Friendly Solutions

    As Jacob grew older, shaving became a new quest. The vibrations and sensations of an electric razor were overwhelming. We turned to alternatives, experimenting until we found a solution that worked for him.

    Clothes: Navigating Fabric Sensitivities

    Jake's clothes for going out!
    These clothes are for going out and sensory friendly.

    Clothing choices were another sensory battleground. Jacob had strong preferences for certain textures, and he wasn’t shy about expressing his displeasure with others. Our solution? Letting him choose his outfits for the day from a selection of sensory-friendly clothes. This gave him a sense of control and reduced the daily clothing battles.

    Have Hope!

    Take heart, it was no easy feat, and there were moments when I felt like I was starring in a sitcom of my own. But with patience, creativity, and the power of routines, we found ways to navigate these sensory challenges together. Jacob has grown more confident and capable, and I’ve learned that sometimes, a little humor can go a long way in making even the most challenging situations a bit more manageable.

    tips for de-stressing!
    Here are some tips to De-Stress!

    So, to all the tired and frustrated moms out there, remember, you’re not alone on this journey. With a sprinkle of humor and a dash of creativity, you too can conquer sensory challenges and help your child thrive on the autism spectrum.

    Take care of yourself! Take a walk, eat healthy and talk with your friends. You’re no good to anyone if you’re always tired and stressed.

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  • 3 Tips for Teaching Chores to a Child on the Autism Spectrum!

    Weekly Chore Chart
    Example of weekly chore chart

    Child on the Autism Spectrum

    Parenting takes us on an adventure with twists, turns, and unexpected challenges. If you’ve ever found yourself negotiating with laundry piles or tackling an overflowing trash can, you’re not alone. The journey becomes even more unique when guiding a child on the autism spectrum through responsibilities. Meet Jacob, my ADHD son, who loves TV shows, dining out, and ordering movies from Amazon or eBay from 10 years ago. But what about chores? Could Jacob, with sensory sensitivities and autism, find joy in the realm of tasks most children dread? The answer is a resounding yes. Our story isn’t just about chores; it’s about empowerment and everyday victories that bridge his world and ours.

    The Power of Visual Schedules

    The zippered bags contain school work and a short book to read.
    Jacob’s daily school bags for the week!

    Imagine a canvas splashed with vibrant colors and images that promise adventure. This is a visual schedule, a magical compass guiding your child through chores. For Jacob, it transformed chores into thrilling quests, easing sensory sensitivities and providing control.

    The zippered bags in the picture contain school work, chapter books and word-finds he likes to complete. The larger garment bags are clothes that are clean and ready for that particular day of the week that he has washed and hung up as part of his weekly chores. They are now ready to put in his weekly schedule.

    Jacob with laundry, dishes and movies when chores are done.
    Chores and movie when complete!

    Turning Tasks into Adventures

    Harnessing imagination turned chores into adventures. Each task became a noble mission – dishes to be vanquished, laundry as a portal to accomplishment. Jacob embraced his role as the “Kitchen Crusader,” his sense of responsibility blooming.

    Jake is a cleaning ninja when he knows Mrs. Gwen will be watching him the next morning. I will hear him in the kitchen doing dishes at 10 p.m. so the sink is empty when she shows up. He will come and tell me “Mrs. Gwen” when he’s finished! That’s my cue to say, okay I will tell Mrs. Gwen you did a great job on your chores today. He wants her approval and to make a fuss over him and tell him “Good job Jake!”

    Giving rewards for tasks and chores completed
    Give rewards for tasks and chores completed!

    Rewards and Celebrations

    Every adventure deserves a treasure. A chest of movies awaited Jacob, a reward for dedication to chores. Set achievable goals, celebrate victories, and let joy ripple through every chore conquered.

    celebrate all tasks and chores completed by your child on autism spectrum
    Celebrate all tasks and chores completed!

    Unveiling the Symphony of Chore Magic

    Teaching chores to an autism spectrum child is a harmonious note in the symphony of parenting. Chores aren’t just tasks; they’re stepping stones to empowerment, unity, and growth. Embrace visual schedules, turn chores into quests, celebrate with rewards. Jacob, the “Kitchen Crusader,” conquers not just chores, but life itself. As parents, we hold the wand, guiding our children through responsibilities. Let chore time be where unity and growth dance in every step. The adventure has begun! How Jacob has success daily without anxiety. #autismchallenges

     

    Consistency is Key

     

    For children on the autism spectrum, consistency provides a sense of security and predictability. This is crucial in helping them manage their tasks and responsibilities.

     

    Establishing Routine

     

    Make chores a part of their daily or weekly routine. Use visual schedules to outline what needs to be done and when. For Jacob, seeing his tasks laid out clearly helps him understand what is expected and reduces anxiety.

    Download my eBook for more tips: https://educatingjacob.myflodesk.com/tfgvkumbkg

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