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  • Beyond the Chaos: Scheduling 101 Class for Special Needs Children

    Jacob_reading_when_he_first_started_using_schedules
    This is Jacob reading a story book that was in his first_then work schedule!

    Beyond the chaos:

    Hold on Tight: The Rollercoaster Begins .  My son Jacob, bless his heart, decides it’s time for an emotional rollercoaster ride, and I’m just here, trying not to fall off the emotional rollercoaster myself. 🎢

    You see, our home, thanks to Jacob’s autism, resembles something like a tornado hit it regularly. Remember that joke about the first child being an angel, and then the second child coming along to prove that theory wrong? Well, autism walked into our lives and said, “Hold my juice box!” Chaos, storms, and frustration, anyone? 🌀 🤪

    Need help regaining your calm? Check out this previous blog post: https://educatingjacob.com/5-ways-to-regain-my-calm-when-my-special-needs-child-is-dancing-on-my-last-nerve/

    The Colossal Challenges

    These challenges are colossal, like trying to fit a giraffe into a Mini Cooper. 🦒 Feeling isolated, drowning in paperwork, and dealing with doctors and insurance companies become a daily sport.

    Whack-a-Mole: Battling Behaviors with Pool Noodles

    It’s like playing a never-ending game of whack-a-mole, but the moles are challenging behaviors, and the mallet is a pool noodle. 🏊 Oh, and the ticket to the game is depression. Yeah, fun times.🔨

    Mastering the Schedule: Finding Clarity and Flexibility

    Thankfully, my superhero cape-wearing family and friends have kept me from succumbing to a life of perpetual pool noodle whacking. I still get frustrated and depressed sometimes, but now I have my trusty sidekick, “Jacob’s Daily Schedule,” by my side. 📅

    What I needed was the proper mindset, I needed to know why the schedule was important for Jacob and for our family. Then through trial and error I learned to create the perfect schedules for us. It’s always centered around Jacob and how to help him. This keeps our family moving forward.

    You have to get clear on your challenges and then use a simple schedule to start yourself off and build on that until you’ve mastered what is needed. Life is constantly changing and once you’ve learned how to create schedules it’s not hard to course correct and make small changes when needed!🔄🧠

     

    Roadmap for choices
    Use schedules with built in choice for connection and learning!                                                       

    The Power of Schedules:

    Roadmap to success! Use a schedule, be consistent, and celebrate all wins!

    I used to feel like I was blindfolded, trying to solve a puzzle with shape-shifting pieces. 🧩 Then, I discovered visual schedules, and it was like I found the cheat code to the game of parenting. Schedules are your roadmap!

    Picture this: Jacob and I are now on an epic quest.The sensory challenges are our dragons, and our visual schedules are our treasure maps. And let’s not forget the rewards – stickers, high-fives, maybe even some chocolate. 🍫🛡️ 🗺️

    We’ve turned chores into quests. Jacob, now known as the “Kitchen Crusader,” conquers not just chores, but life itself. As parents, we’re the wizards, guiding our children through the magical world of responsibilities. Let the chore-adventures begin! 🎉✨

    Creating Effective Schedules:

    The zippered bags contain school work and a short book to read.
    Jacob’s daily school bags for the week!

    Visual schedules are like vibrant canvases that promise adventure. It’s like our daily to-do list became a treasure map. For Jacob, chores turned into thrilling quests, and sensory sensitivities were banished like villains from a fairy tale.

    Unlocking the Mysteries of Zippered Bags

    Those zippered bags you see? They’re not just bags; they’re portals to another dimension. One contains school work – the realm of knowledge. Another holds chapter books – the doorway to countless adventures. And the larger garment bags? Well, they’re Jacob’s wardrobe for the week, neatly hung up like a knight’s armor, ready for duty. 🎒 🛡️

    A Week in Advance: Why the Plan Matters

    Everything is planned out a week in advance, and why is that important? Because if Jacob doesn’t have a plan for his day, he will experience anxiety when there are unexpected transitions. Imagine interrupting a grand quest to slay dragons – not a good idea! Plus, with processing language delays, it’s like trying to decipher ancient runes on the fly. 📅 🐉

    Fashion Forward with Clothes Schedules

    The clothes schedule gives him sensory-friendly but decent clothes for the community already picked out. It’s like having a superhero costume ready for action – no fuss, no muss, just heroic flair! 👔 🦸‍♂️

    Ready for Life’s Twists and Turns

    Life gives the unexpected, and our children need to be ready and able to handle the changes. But fear not! With the structure of a schedule, they’re like seasoned adventurers equipped with a map and compass. They can navigate the twists and turns with confidence, knowing that they have a plan in place. 🛤️ 🗺️

    Course Correcting with Ease

    So, when we need to course correct for unexpected transitions, it’s like adjusting the sails on a ship. With the routine of a schedule already in place, it’s not a daunting task; it’s just a gentle nudge in the right direction. Smooth sailing ahead! 🔄 ⛵

    Embracing the Future

    Now, all we need to do is adjust the schedule and let them see what’s coming. It’s a new transition, but easier because it’s within the confines of a routine they’re comfortable with already. With schedules as our trusty guides, the future looks bright, and the adventures ahead are limitless! 🔮 🌟

    If you want to look into some community events that are designed with your children in mind and already set up for success, see if you have an Autism Society locally, If you live in NC, check this out: https://www.eventbrite.com/o/autism-society-of-north-carolina-6867453005

    Remember, in this adventure called life, we’re here to help and support each other. Together, we’re stronger. I’m praying for you, my friends! 🌟 #AutismAwareness

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  • 3 Tips for Teaching Chores to a Child on the Autism Spectrum!

    Weekly Chore Chart
    Example of weekly chore chart

    Child on the Autism Spectrum

    Parenting takes us on an adventure with twists, turns, and unexpected challenges. If you’ve ever found yourself negotiating with laundry piles or tackling an overflowing trash can, you’re not alone. The journey becomes even more unique when guiding a child on the autism spectrum through responsibilities. Meet Jacob, my ADHD son, who loves TV shows, dining out, and ordering movies from Amazon or eBay from 10 years ago. But what about chores? Could Jacob, with sensory sensitivities and autism, find joy in the realm of tasks most children dread? The answer is a resounding yes. Our story isn’t just about chores; it’s about empowerment and everyday victories that bridge his world and ours.

    The Power of Visual Schedules

    The zippered bags contain school work and a short book to read.
    Jacob’s daily school bags for the week!

    Imagine a canvas splashed with vibrant colors and images that promise adventure. This is a visual schedule, a magical compass guiding your child through chores. For Jacob, it transformed chores into thrilling quests, easing sensory sensitivities and providing control.

    The zippered bags in the picture contain school work, chapter books and word-finds he likes to complete. The larger garment bags are clothes that are clean and ready for that particular day of the week that he has washed and hung up as part of his weekly chores. They are now ready to put in his weekly schedule.

    Jacob with laundry, dishes and movies when chores are done.
    Chores and movie when complete!

    Turning Tasks into Adventures

    Harnessing imagination turned chores into adventures. Each task became a noble mission – dishes to be vanquished, laundry as a portal to accomplishment. Jacob embraced his role as the “Kitchen Crusader,” his sense of responsibility blooming.

    Jake is a cleaning ninja when he knows Mrs. Gwen will be watching him the next morning. I will hear him in the kitchen doing dishes at 10 p.m. so the sink is empty when she shows up. He will come and tell me “Mrs. Gwen” when he’s finished! That’s my cue to say, okay I will tell Mrs. Gwen you did a great job on your chores today. He wants her approval and to make a fuss over him and tell him “Good job Jake!”

    Giving rewards for tasks and chores completed
    Give rewards for tasks and chores completed!

    Rewards and Celebrations

    Every adventure deserves a treasure. A chest of movies awaited Jacob, a reward for dedication to chores. Set achievable goals, celebrate victories, and let joy ripple through every chore conquered.

    celebrate all tasks and chores completed by your child on autism spectrum
    Celebrate all tasks and chores completed!

    Unveiling the Symphony of Chore Magic

    Teaching chores to an autism spectrum child is a harmonious note in the symphony of parenting. Chores aren’t just tasks; they’re stepping stones to empowerment, unity, and growth. Embrace visual schedules, turn chores into quests, celebrate with rewards. Jacob, the “Kitchen Crusader,” conquers not just chores, but life itself. As parents, we hold the wand, guiding our children through responsibilities. Let chore time be where unity and growth dance in every step. The adventure has begun! How Jacob has success daily without anxiety. #autismchallenges

     

    Consistency is Key

     

    For children on the autism spectrum, consistency provides a sense of security and predictability. This is crucial in helping them manage their tasks and responsibilities.

     

    Establishing Routine

     

    Make chores a part of their daily or weekly routine. Use visual schedules to outline what needs to be done and when. For Jacob, seeing his tasks laid out clearly helps him understand what is expected and reduces anxiety.

    Download my eBook for more tips: https://educatingjacob.myflodesk.com/tfgvkumbkg

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