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    Our New Years Challenge, the schedule we will use for our new habits!

    Hey there fellow parents and teachers! 🚀

    So, it’s that time of year again when we dust off our resolutions and set out to conquer schedules for super habits. 🎉 But let’s be real, folks, making New Year’s resolutions can sometimes feel like trying to organize a super-villain convention: chaotic, overwhelming, and filled with unexpected plot twists.

    Well, this year, I’m approaching it a bit differently, with a dash of humor and a sprinkle of superhero inspiration, because, let’s face it, life is way more fun with a little laughter and some superhero vibes. 

    Atomic Habits

    But fear not! I’ve been doing some reading, and I’m all fired up thanks to James Clear’s “Atomic Habits.” 💪 If you haven’t checked it out yet, it’s like the superhero manual for mastering habits.

    Jacob’s a superhero aficionado. You name it, he’s into it. Marvel, DC, you get the drift. And me, I’m a bona fide “boy mom” who prefers action and comedy over drama any day (except during the holiday season when sappiness is allowed).

    But I digress. What I’m getting at is this: I’m taking a leaf out of Jacob’s book, quite literally. I’m going to use one of his visual schedules to cultivate some new habits for myself. Simple, right?

    Jacob’s new items to the schedule is straightforward: add green vegetables daily, budget money, exercise. It’s about focusing on what works and making it a habit. Remember what we talked about last week? Don’t complicate things; use more of what works and keep it simple. Can’t remember here’s a link to last weeks post: 3 New Year’s resolutions for the family? Lol, they have to do with autism and schedules!

    New items to add to the daily schedule
    These 3 items will be added to the daily schedule!

    It’s advice we’ve all heard countless times – keep it simple. And you know what? It’s absolutely true. If a schedule or habit is too complicated, we won’t experience enough success to make a lasting change.

    🎬 So, why not apply the magic of schedules to our New Year’s challenge?

    Unlocking Super Habits – Jacob’s Way

    Make exercise fun!
    Make exercise fun!

    Jacob’s schedule will be a breeze: eat more green veggies, manage his budget (he’s quite the financial wizard), and keep up with his daily exercise (which often involves impressive superhero moves). 🥦💰💪

    And for me? Well, I’ve learned that sometimes, simpler is better. No need to create complicated, Avengers-level schedules for ourselves. 🦸‍♀️🦸‍♂️

    Unlocking Super Habits – My Way

    3 New Habits for 2024
    3 New Habits for 2024, that I want as a daily task that I do automatically.

    Now, let’s talk about my new habits and schedule. I’m keeping it simple, just like Jacob’s. My schedule will include read my bible, exercise, and work on my business. It’s a back-to-basics approach, reminiscent of the schedules I used when Jake was just a little guy of 4 or 5.

    Remember that post by Mel Robbins where she shared a simple schedule? It caught my eye, and I couldn’t help but comment, “Yes!” Why complicate things if something works and is simple? Sometimes, less really is more.

    So, here’s the deal – I’m inviting you to join us in this challenge. Let’s use the same simple schedule, just like the good ol’ days, to add some new habits that will supercharge our 2024. Tag us in your posts on Instagram or Facebook; let’s share this journey together.🏋️‍♀️🥗💼

    Remember, it’s all about building on what works. Just like in a good superhero sequel, we should reflect on our successes and do more of that. No need to complicate things. 🎥

    We’ve all heard the advice to “keep it simple,” and trust me, it’s superhero wisdom! If it’s simple and it works, that’s all you need. 🙌

    Quest for better habits in 2024

    So, there you have it, fellow superheroes in the making. It’s time to simplify, to unlock those super habits for 2024. No capes required, just a simple schedule and the determination to make positive changes.

    Let’s embark on this adventure together, just like the heroes we are. Here’s to laughter, simplicity, and a fantastic year ahead. Stay tuned for updates, and don’t forget to tag us in your posts. Let’s rock this year like the superheroes we were born to be.

    Our challenge to you: Join us in the quest for better habits in 2024! Create your own simple schedule and tag us on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/educatingjacob/ or Facebook. Let’s support each other on this journey to super habits and a super year ahead. 🌟💥 #SuperHabits2024

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    3 New Year’s resolutions for the family? Lol, they have to do with autism and schedules!

    2024 Happy New Year!
    2024 Changes!

    Let’s update those schedules:

    You know it’s time to update those schedules when your calendar looks like a map of a complex labyrinth with more twists and turns than an episode of your favorite mystery series. Trouble changing the schedules? https://raisingchildren.net.au/autism/behaviour/understanding-behaviour/changing-routines-asd Reflecting on the past year, let’s take a moment to acknowledge what worked well and what didn’t in the realm of autism and schedules. As I listen to all the podcasts helping me improve myself, I’ve realized it’s high time we do more of what works and ditch what doesn’t.

    “Hey, kiddo, remember that time we tried to fit in four different therapies, two playdates, and a partridge in a pear tree all in one day? Yeah, let’s not do that again.” So, this year, let’s resolve to establish and maintain a consistent daily routine. This can work wonders for reducing anxiety in children with autism and schedules. We’ll make a visual schedule or use a calendar to outline the day’s activities. Therapy sessions, schoolwork, playtime, and meals all get a slot. How Simple Planning Ahead Can Save the Day When Working with Someone Who Has Autism! These are areas that need attention when dealing with autism and schedules, and they’re like a puzzle – easy to make small daily changes to improve. We’ll stick to this routine as closely as possible but allow for some flexibility when necessary because, let’s face it, life can be as unpredictable as the weather.

    Streamline the budget:

    Let's update those schedules!
    Do more of what’s working and cut what’s not working.

    Now, let’s talk finances. If your wallet has a perpetual echo because it’s always empty, well, you’re not alone. Jake’s idea of budgeting is handing over his wallet with a look that says, “Refill, please!” If only money could be as easily replenished as a snack jar.

    But seriously, it’s time to streamline the budget. We’re trying to teach Jacob the fine art of money management. As for us adults, we’re taking a closer look at our financial habits. It’s like a yearly clean-up for your bank account, an essential aspect of managing autism and schedules. And believe me, it’s a lot less messy than cleaning out the garage.

    Self-Care, Better Diet, and Exercise:

    Ah, self-care. That elusive concept that often feels like a mythical creature when you’re juggling the responsibilities of parenting a child with autism and schedules. But hey, we’re resolving to make it happen this year. We’ll prioritize self-care as a family resolution, especially within the context of autism and schedules. We’ll ensure that both parents get opportunities to recharge. Whether it’s through regular breaks, date nights, or pursuing hobbies and interests. Because a well-rested and emotionally supported family is like the Avengers of autism parenting – we’ve got superpowers!

    Now, let’s talk about the diet. We’ve realized that a diet consisting solely of chicken nuggets and Dr. Pepper probably won’t lead to Jacob becoming the healthiest adult on the planet. So, we’re all in for incorporating better eating habits into our lives alongside autism and schedules.

    And exercise? Well, that’s going to be a family affair. David’s got this habit down, but Jacob and I might need some extra motivation. Even Jake’s older brother, Nicholas, is racking up steps on his college campus, making us all look bad. Jacob does have a thing for spinach, broccoli, and carrots. So, we’ll be working those into the schedule more often to help improve his diet, all part of managing autism and schedules. As for me, well, I’m thinking of trying out the Mediterranean diet – anything that doesn’t involve counting how many chicken nuggets I’ve consumed.

    These resolutions are like puzzle pieces themselves, creating a supportive and structured environment for the whole family, all while considering the specific needs of a child with autism and schedules. We’ll use the desire for a schedule to throw in some good small habits that will add up over time. Who knows, maybe we’ll even find a way to schedule in some spontaneous fun along the way.

    Need help with schedules? Check out my previous blog post: “How to create a personalized schedule for children with autism”

    Have a blessed and Happy New Year!

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    Autism and the Holidays: Shaping the Season with a Positive Mindset

    autism and holidays, Relax with a date night to kick off the holiday month!
    Date Night! #ZachWilliams

    Ah, the early years of dealing with autism, how to have autism and holidays? The days were a rollercoaster of emotions – anxiety, stress, depression, and yes, let’s not forget the ever-present financial strain from therapies not covered by insurance. But hey, welcome to the world of parenting a child with autism, right? https://www.autismspeaks.org/blog/home-holidays-ways-make-sure-your-autistic-child-enjoys-their-break

    Rolling in the Memories 🎢

    family and christmas time
    Jacob’s dad David and Older brother Nicholas!

    Fast forward a couple of decades, and I’ve not only survived numerous family holidays but also successfully guided my students through adapting to change and finding joy along the way.

    From those early, challenging years to the present day, I’ve learned that having a plan and setting boundaries for myself and my son can turn the holiday season into a time of joy and happiness. I’ve realized that, just like my son, I need structure during this bustling time of year. It’s all about keeping my own days from falling apart, because when they do, well, let’s just say it’s like inviting old pals Anxiety, Stress, and Depression back into my life. And we’re not on speaking terms anymore! Let’s make a plan for autism and holidays. Why these 3 boundaries are desperately needed for my autistic son?

    The Jolly Watchlist 📺

    autism and holidays, Movies we watch in December!
    Movies we watch in December!

    I absolutely adore the holidays, but I’ll be the first to admit that my decorations don’t rival a winter wonderland anymore. My mental bandwidth sometimes resembles a traffic jam, and I don’t always have the time and energy for elaborate decor. But I’m working on it! I do cherish those twinkling lights, and I’m the first one to set up the Christmas tree, queue up the holiday movies, and plan Advent activities to teach Jacob about the birth of Christ.

    Movies like “It’s a Wonderful Life,” “While You Were Sleeping,” “Heat Miser, Snow Miser,” “The Grinch,” and “Home Alone” are like little parcels of joy. They infuse the holiday spirit into our hearts and remind us that this season is about warmth, love, and laughter.

    Set Boundaries, Savor Moments 🎁

    So, what’s the secret to keeping your holiday spirits high? Have a plan, and set boundaries. Not everything that comes your way needs a ‘yes.’ For instance, I’ve learned that taking Jake to bustling, noisy places or disrupting his routine doesn’t bring me joy; it brings stress. So, as much as I’d love to say yes to every invite, I have to prioritize his needs and have a caregiver in place when I can’t be there.

    Don’t feel guilty about your boundaries; embrace them, and savor the moments. Inside, I decorate to create a festive atmosphere, watch heartwarming movies, bake cookies, and sip hot cocoa.

    Self-Care Is the Best Gift 🌟

    I’ve also learned the importance of self-care, not just professional development. I indulge in reading for pleasure, especially action-packed books – a brief escape from the daily challenges of being a boy mom. Long baths are a luxury I occasionally treat myself to. Finding time for exercise is a goal I’m still working on. After a day filled with special needs at home and school, I often suffer from decision fatigue and every other kind of fatigue imaginable. But I’m learning to plan better, particularly for meals and exercise.

    In the end, it’s all about maintaining that positive mindset. With a plan, boundaries, a touch of self-care, and a sprinkle of holiday joy, the holiday season can be a time of joy, even for parents of children with autism. So here’s to embracing where you are and enjoying life, one festive moment at a time! 🎄🧡 #positivemindset How Jacob has success daily without anxiety. #autismchallenges

    Holiday Mindset 🎄
    autism and holidays, Advent activities for Jacob!
    Advent activities for Jacob!

    So, as we dive headfirst into the holiday season, remember, don’t compare your life or your child’s journey to anyone else’s. Celebrate where you are, and how far you’ve come. Life is a unique journey, and no two paths are the same. Keep a journal if it helps; it’s a wonderful way to witness the progress you and your child have made over the years. Here’s a previous blog post if you want more tips: 5 ways to regain my calm when my special needs child is dancing on my last nerve!

    Through all the highs and lows, the challenges, and the laughter, we’re moving forward. We’re blessed with the opportunity to love, learn, and grow with our extraordinary children. 🌟📖💪 #movingforward #blessed

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    Why Hurting My Back and Foot Was So Scary: A Parent’s Journey with Autism

     

    Foot pain, Morton's neuroma
    Electrical Stimulation to relieve pain and swelling!

    Ah, the holiday season – a time of merriment, joy, and usually, a whole lot of hustle and bustle. But this year, as the carolers started singing and the twinkling lights adorned our neighborhood, I found myself facing an unexpected challenge – a hurt back and a throbbing foot. Now, for most people, this might just be an inconvenience. But for me, it was terrifying. Why? Because I have a son named Jacob, and he depends on me like a ship depends on its anchor.

    The Aging Realization:

    Sciatica, Mortons neuroma a week before Christmas Break! Sciatica and Mortons Neuroma

    There I was, limping around like a wounded penguin, with my foot throbbing in protest and sciatica making me feel like a character from a sci-fi movie. And all I could think of was, “I’m getting older.” It’s a harsh reality we all eventually face, but as a parent of a child with autism, it hits a little differently. It’s a reminder that I will always have a child who relies on me, no matter how many candles are on my birthday cake.

    The Ominous “What Ifs”:

    For any parent, the thought of hurting yourself and being unable to care for your child is terrifying. But when your child depends on you for almost everything, it’s a whole new level of scary. The “what if” scenarios played on a loop in my mind. What if I couldn’t work? What if I couldn’t take care of Jacob? It was like a suspenseful thriller, and I was anxiously awaiting the next plot twist.

    Jacob to the Rescue:

    Schedules for autism saved the day
    #schedulessavedtheday

    But here’s the silver lining in this unexpected cloud – Jacob has been incredibly helpful. It turns out my meticulous planning and our well-oiled routines paid off. Jacob’s schedule for our daily activities has been a savior. He knows what to expect, and he’s adapted like a champ.

    Grocery Shopping Adventures:

    Picture this: I’m hobbling around like an extra from a zombie movie, clutching onto a shopping cart for dear life. Jacob, my trusty sidekick, doesn’t mind my slower pace. He even helps pick out the perfect cart. It’s teamwork at its finest, and it warms my heart.

    Adjustments and Understanding:

    On days when I’ve been less patient and more like the Grinch, Jacob’s been understanding. I’ve had to make adjustments in his schedule, like moving his haircut and shave day to Saturdays when I have more energy. And guess what? He handled it like a pro. No meltdowns, no tantrums. It’s like he knew that sometimes, life throws us curveballs, and you have to adjust your swing.

    The Reassurance:

    So here’s the thing – it’s still frustrating for me as a mom. My foot isn’t magically healed, and my back still aches. But you know what? It’s not as scary anymore. I’ve realized that all the hard work we put into creating routines and schedules has paid off. Jacob can adapt. He can handle change. He’s stronger and more resilient than I sometimes give him credit for. For more tips on parenting check out last weeks blog, Why buying Christmas presents can be hard when the child has autism.

    A Merry Christmas Indeed:

    As I reflect on this holiday season, I feel blessed. My foot might be hurting, but my heart is full. Jacob and I have weathered this unexpected storm together. So, to all the moms out there facing similar challenges with their amazing kids, know that you’re not alone. May your Christmas be filled with peace, joy, and the unwavering love that only a parent can understand.

    Merry Christmas, everyone! 🌟🎄🎁

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