Hey there, fellow parents of awesome kids with autism! Let’s talk about those days when it seems like chaos is taking over. We all have off days or weeks, and I’m no different. In the beginning of this journey, I just didn’t know any better. But now I do know better, and one thing’s for sure: we should always have a schedule and plans for Jacob.

The Power of the Schedule

We all have off days or weeks, and I’m no different. 🙃 In the beginning of this journey, I just didn’t know any better. But now I do know better, and we should always have a schedule and plans for Jacob. 

📅 We know that it helps keep down anxiety, aids with emotional regulation, and helps him enjoy his day, just to name a few of the huge benefits. So, what happens if I forget to fill the zipper bags for the weekly work? Or, the haircut, manicure, and pedicure aren’t on the monthly schedule. Now it’s needed, and I’m not in the mood to complete these tasks??? 🤔

📆 Well, normally I can just show him the monthly calendar and add the haircut to the following day, and he’s okay with that. But if the nails are too long and bothering him, he will probably pick at them. This can be a big problem because Jacob easily gets ingrown toenails, and he will pick if it’s bothering him. See this previous post:3 ways to help your child on the autism spectrum navigate doctor visits more smoothly

When Mom Slacks Off

🔧 Now, I just caused a major problem because I didn’t have my act together today. That’s just one example of life falling apart because I just let the schedule go and didn’t do my part. Also, if it’s not done and I’m grumpy because he’s not handling his day well, then I also know it’s partly my fault. Now, if I can fix and get us back on track, then, of course, I do.

🔄 If, however, he spirals into an emotional meltdown and dances on everyone’s last nerve and gets in trouble before I can course correct, then I have to punish him by taking away his ability to buy his Amazon purchase at the end of the week for completing work and having a great week.

Consistency Is Key

🚫 If I’m not consistent in rewarding good behavior and holding back rewards when he hasn’t stayed in check, then the whole system breaks down.

🤷‍♀️ Now, if I have to punish by not allowing the Amazon purchase he’s supposed to get on Friday, I feel incredibly guilty because I know I could have helped him more by having that schedule and work in place to guide his week.

📝 Sometimes though, life gets in the way. You start thinking he’s so used to the schedule he’ll be alright for one day, or you just plain forget because you’re tired or sick. Just self-correct as soon as possible and get on track so your child is set up for success, and you won’t carry guilt that you could have possibly prevented the whole scenario!

Give Yourself Some Grace

💖 Give yourself some grace; we are all human. You need a plan for your child, or your child will have a plan for you! Stay scheduled up!! 📆🙂

Stay tuned for more autism adventures and parenting tips. Remember, we’re all in this together, and a little humor can go a long way on this journey! 🌟🙂