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    Ways to have peace? Creating time for yourself, not just your child with autism.

    Welcome to the chaotic yet rewarding journey of parenting a child with autism while creating time for yourself! 🌟 As parents, we often find ourselves tirelessly dedicated to meeting our children’s needs, especially when they require extra support and attention. But amidst the hustle and bustle of daily life, it’s easy to forget one essential component: ourselves.

    Trying to find an Honest Man in Congress

    I’ll be the first to admit, finding time for self-care as a parent of a child with autism can feel like trying to find an honest man in congress. 🧵 But after years of juggling appointments, therapies, and meltdowns, I’ve come to realize that carving out moments of peace for myself is not only beneficial—it’s downright essential.

    Creating Time for Yourself

    In this blog post, I’m excited to share my journey of discovering the importance of self-care and finding peace amidst the chaos of raising a child with autism. So let’s find the humor and practical tips, let’s embark on this adventure together and uncover the joys of creating time for ourselves, not just our children. 💆‍♀️

    Grab Your Favorite Mug

    #coffeeandabook, to relax and unwind I love coffee and a book!
    #coffeeandabook

    So grab your favorite mug of coffee (or tea, I won’t judge!), find a cozy spot to sit back, and let’s dive into the wonderful world of self-care for autism parents. Because trust me, you deserve it! I’m trying not to look at the calories in this Starbucks cup. 🍵✨

    The Wonderful World of Parent Swaps
    Pictures of mom and the boys!
    Mom and I always babysat for each other!

    Ah, the wonderful world of parent swaps—where exhaustion meets camaraderie, and sanity is traded like currency. 😅 Back when my mom was still alive, and I was knee-deep in the trenches of parenting with two small kids, one of whom had autism, we had a beautiful arrangement…

    I would help with my dad, he had COPD and needed assistance in the end years. I also, needed moments of running errands without two small children all over me! It was a great time, I loved spending time with my dad and my mom and dad loved spending time with their grandchildren. Win-Win!

    Discovering Peace Amidst the Chaos

    Yet, amidst the chaos and unexpected turns of life, I’ve found peace. 🕊️ I’ve come to accept our journey for what it is and embrace the support system that surrounds us. But perhaps the most significant lesson I’ve learned is this: I need more than just making my son’s life better…

    Prioritizing Spiritual Nourishment
    #blessed
    Trying to keep God first, not just when things go wrong.

    Without dedicating time to nurture my spiritual life, I find myself swimming in a sea of stress and discontent. 🌊 It’s like trying to navigate without a compass—I lose my sense of direction and purpose. So, I make it a priority to carve out moments for prayer, meditation, and reflection…

    Balancing Exercise and Indulgence

    As for exercise, well, let’s just say menopause has hit me like a ton of bricks. 💪 I’m still working on finding the perfect balance between staying active and indulging in a few too many comfort foods. But I’ve come to realize that moving my body and fueling it with nourishing foods are essential…

    Sprinkles on Life’s Sundae

    And let’s not forget about fun and creative activities—they’re like the sprinkles on top of life’s sundae. 🍦 Whether it’s painting, gardening, or belting out karaoke tunes in the living room, these moments of joy keep me feeling young at heart and connected to my inner child… Jacob and David are the DJ’s in the music department. Look at last weeks post on adding a little fun to a gloomy day!

    The Recipe for a Fulfilling Life

    But here’s the thing: it’s not just about me. It’s about ensuring that my entire family—Jacob included—has access to these essential ingredients for a fulfilling life. As the mom, I often find myself playing the role of chief nurturer, ensuring everyone’s needs are met…

    My husband David is great and does his part for the family and supports me too, but I will get lost in the details and plan without time for myself.

    Join the Journey

    So, here’s the game plan: we all need spiritual nourishment, regular exercise, and plenty of fun and creative outlets. It’s the recipe for a life well-lived, ensuring that each member of the family has the tools they need to thrive. 🌟

    We are all trying to include all of these areas into our schedules so that we are all working and fulfilled. 

    Let’s Laugh, Learn, and Dance

    Join me on this journey of creating time for yourself and self-care, where we’ll laugh, learn, and maybe even bust a few dance moves along the way. After all, life’s too short to forget about the most important things that make life worthwhile. 💃✨

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    3 Top Challenges of having an adult son with autism.#autismchallenges🧩

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    #autismchallenges

    I’m diving into the  3 top challenges I’ve faced having an adult son with autism. To my fellow parents, I know you feel my pain! 🌟 Ever feel like you’re juggling flaming swords while riding a unicycle? 🤹‍♂️ Welcome to the wild world of parenting an adult child with autism! So grab your coffee, take a seat, and let’s navigate this adventure together! 💙 #autismchallenges🧩

     

    Challenge #1: Keeping Reliable Care for Jacob While We Work

     

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    Challenge #1: Keeping Reliable Care for Jacob While We Work!

     

    Ah, the eternal quest for trustworthy care for our adult child with autism! 🌟 It’s like searching for a unicorn in a marvel movie, am I right? But fear not, fellow adventurers, for we are armed with perseverance and strength! 🦄

     

    Entrusting Jacob’s care to others feels like sending him off on a grand quest without a map or a guidebook. 🗺️ It’s nerve-wracking, to say the least! But hey, we’re not alone in this journey. We’ve enlisted the help of a company that hires background-checked individuals. Yet, even with this safety net, the anxiety lingers like an unwelcome guest at a party. Try well-known agencies like the Autism Society, https://www.autismsociety-nc.org/#

     

    And let’s talk about the perpetual juggling act of work and caregiving. 🤹‍♂️ It’s like trying to tame a lion while balancing on a tightrope! But fret not, my friends, for there’s a legal safeguard in the form of FMLA (Family and Medical Leave Act). Just to make sure you are not fired because you have to care for your child. It’s like our superhero cape, offering protection against the evil clutches of employment uncertainty. 💼✨

     

    Check out the government website here: https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/fmla

     

    Alright Autism adventurers, take heart! While the road may be rocky, and the challenges daunting, we shall overcome with resilience, determination, and maybe a dash of caffeine! ☕️ Onward, to victory! 🚀 #AutismAwareness 🧩

    Challenge #2: Navigating the Absence Abyss

    What happens when your adult son with autism has caregivers out sick?

     

    Ah, the dreaded sick days saga!  It’s like a whirlwind of chaos that sweeps through our carefully crafted plans, isn’t it? But fear not, for in the face of adversity, we emerge as champions of resilience and adaptability!🤒

     

    When your child’s caregiver calls in sick, and suddenly, you’re thrust into a frantic scramble to find a replacement. It’s like trying to solve a Rubik’s Cube blindfolded! But alas, finding someone who can step into your child’s world at a moment’s notice is like searching for a needle in a haystack. 🧩

     

    In the blink of an eye, FMLA becomes our lifeline, our legal shield against the unpredictability of caregiving. It’s like summoning reinforcements to fortify our defenses in the battle against chaos! 💼

     

    Amidst the challenges, the Autism Society stands as a beacon of hope, striving to bridge the gap between need and accessibility. They have introduced Jacob to other workers so that in a moment of need, someone can step in and help. This works only if there’s enough notice. Let’s not forget the logistical nightmare of living outside city limits.  It’s like being stranded on a desert island with limited resources,#AutismIsland!🚗

     

    So, fellow warriors, take a deep breath and summon your inner zen. 🌟 Though the road may be rocky when you have an adult son with autism. The challenges aplenty, we shall prevail with perseverance, humor, and maybe a splash of “Calgon 🛁 take me away” for good measure!  #AutismAwareness 🧩 Ways to have peace? Creating time for yourself, not just your child with autism.

    Challenge #3: Crafting the Perfect Environment for Success

     

    Challenge#3
    Small zippered bags have school work and clothes in garment bags!

     

    Ah, the noble quest for the holy grail of productivity and success!  It’s like embarking on a grand adventure through the labyrinth of chaos, armed with nothing but schedules and calendars as our trusty companions.🏆

     

    Amidst the whirlwind of life, we forged a sanctuary of learning and tranquility for our adult son with autism.  With schedules as our guiding stars, chaos retreated like a defeated dragon, and productivity flourished like wildflowers in spring.🌟

     

    A Collaborative Journey to Success

     

    But here’s the twist: success wasn’t just for Jacob alone; it was a team effort!  We shared our secrets of structure and success with the brave souls entrusted with Jacob’s care, transforming them into allies in our noble quest.💪

     

    And oh, the sweet relief when chaos was banished from our absence!  With a rock-solid foundation of understanding and structure, Jacob’s days unfolded like a well-rehearsed symphony, each note harmonizing with the next in a blissful melody of productivity.🌪️

     

    But let’s not forget the cardinal rule of parenting: consistency is key! Check out this previous  blog post: Help! 3 Ways a schedule can help sensory issues and communication barriers? #Autism Challenges🧩 Like master craftsmen, we meticulously crafted a framework of structure and procedures, ensuring that every interaction and every moment was a stepping stone on the path to success. 🔑

     

    So, dear comrades in arms, do not fear the daunting task before you! 🛡️ With a dash of consistency, a sprinkle of structure, and a hearty dose of determination, you too can forge an environment where success blooms like a garden in the sun. 🌷 #ParentingSuccess 🌈

    Want more tips? Download my free guide: https://educatingjacob.myflodesk.com/o01di34gwl

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    How do we celebrate April as Autism Awareness Month?#autismchallenges🧩

    Autism Awareness Month
    Jacob completing tasks from an early schedule.

    How do we celebrate Autism Awareness Month? Celebrating means more than just rocking blue shirts—it’s about making memories with our kids! I will have blue balloons and special snacks, to make it memorable for Jacob then add some flair to our porch with a blue light bulb. 3 ways American Sign Language helped my son with autism speak in short sentences? Jacob may not get it all, but he’s always up for a party! Any excuse to order a new cool shirt too!🎉 #AutismAwareness 🧩

    Shining a Light on Autism

    In April, the world unites to shine a spotlight on Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) during Autism Awareness Month. This global initiative aims to increase understanding, acceptance, and support for individuals with autism. 🔵🌟

    During Autism Awareness events, educational events, fundraisers, and advocacy campaigns take place worldwide to promote inclusion and acceptance.🧩

    As the global spotlight shines brightly on autism, it’s an opportunity for society to embrace diversity and create a more inclusive world that supports and celebrates all individuals, regardless of their neurodiversity.🌍 

    World Autism Day!
    Spread Awareness and Celebrate differences!

    What is Autism Awareness Month?

    April is an important month for individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and their families. This global initiative aims to increase understanding, acceptance, and support for individuals with autism. Throughout the month, people around the world come together to raise awareness about the challenges faced by those with ASD and celebrate their unique abilities and contributions.🎗️

    The history and significance of Autism Awareness Month

    Celebrating in April has a rich history that dates back to the early 1970s. It was first established by the Autism Society, a leading advocacy organization, with the goal of promoting autism awareness and acceptance. Over the years, the significance of this month has grown, as more people have become aware of the impact of autism on individuals and their families.#AutismAwareness 🎗️

    The impact of Autism 

    The impact of Autism Awareness Month cannot be overstated. Through educational events, fundraisers, and advocacy campaigns, this month-long initiative has succeeded in raising public awareness about autism and dispelling misconceptions. It has also played a crucial role in fostering a more inclusive society that supports and empowers individuals on the autism spectrum.💡🔵

    Autism statistics and prevalence

    According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, autism affects one in every 54 children in the United States. This staggering statistic highlights the importance of awareness and the need for increased understanding and support for individuals with autism. By shining a light on these numbers, we can work towards a more inclusive world that embraces neurodiversity.💡🔵

    Understanding autism spectrum disorder (ASD)

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    Learn the Signs of Autism.

    Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a complex neurodevelopmental condition that affects individuals in different ways. It is characterized by difficulties with social interaction, communication, and repetitive behaviors. Understanding the diverse range of experiences within the autism spectrum is crucial in promoting acceptance and providing appropriate support for individuals with ASD. 💡🔵

    Promoting autism awareness and acceptance

    Autism Awareness Month provides a platform for promoting autism awareness and acceptance. It is an opportunity for individuals, communities, and organizations to educate themselves and others about autism and the challenges faced by those on the spectrum. By fostering a culture of understanding and empathy, we can create a world that embraces neurodiversity and supports individuals with autism.  https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/autism/toolkit.html

    Activities and events during Autism Awareness Month

    Throughout Autism Awareness Month, various activities and events take place to promote inclusion and celebrate individuals with autism. Nonprofit organizations, schools, and communities organize walks, workshops, conferences, and other events to empower individuals with autism and their families.  https://crestline.com/c/autism-awareness-month-activities-for-students-and-adults

    Supporting individuals with autism and their families

    Autism Awareness Month not only raises awareness but also highlights the importance of support for individuals with autism. It is crucial to provide resources, services, and opportunities that help individuals with autism reach their full potential. By offering support and understanding, we can create a more inclusive society that enables individuals with autism to thrive.💡🔵

    Resources for autism education and advocacy

    There are numerous resources available for autism education and advocacy. From online platforms to local support groups, families and individuals can access a wealth of information, guidance, and support. These resources play a vital role in empowering individuals with autism and their families, as well as educating the wider community about autism and how to be more inclusive. https://www.goodnites.com/en-us/resources/adhd-autism/autism-society-of-america-partnership

    Spreading awareness beyond Autism Awareness Month

    While Autism Awareness Month is a crucial time for raising awareness and promoting acceptance, it is important to remember that the need for understanding and support extends beyond the month of April.💡🔵

    Spreading awareness and advocating for individuals with autism should be an ongoing effort throughout the year. By embracing neurodiversity and creating inclusive environments, we can truly make a difference in the lives of individuals with autism and their families.#AutismAwarenessMonth

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    How to turn a gloomy day into a great day!#autismchallenges🧩

     

    Embracing the Rainy Day Adventure

    Rise and Shine, Autism Warriors! 🌟 It’s been a whirlwind of a week, hasn’t it? Meetings, sickness, and the occasional nocturnal wake-up call courtesy of Dad’s heroic endeavors as a firefighter and first responder. But fret not, my fellow adventurers, for when life tosses gloom our way, we’re experts at flipping the script! So, grab your umbrella and join me as we transform this rainy Saturday into a day brimming with culinary delights, sweet treats, and movie magic. Let’s sprinkle some joy into the gloom! ☂️”

    Kickstarting the Day with Aromatic Coffee

    So here we are, Autism Warriors, ready to conquer this gloomy Saturday with a dash of flair and a sprinkle of joy!  Let’s dive into the magic of turning a seemingly dull day into a memorable family adventure.☔️

    Indulging in Heavenly Delights

    First things first, let’s kickstart the day with some aromatic coffee to awaken our senses and fuel our spirits!  With David off shift and ready to join the fun, our family dynamic is already gearing up for an exciting day ahead.☕️

    A Sweet Stop at Crumbl Cookies

    crumbl cookies, YUM!
    Cookies for Movie Night!

    Next stop, Crumbl cookies!  Because let’s face it, what’s a gloomy day without some delectable treats to indulge in? Thanks to my persuasive co-workers, I’m now hooked on these heavenly delights, and there’s no turning back!🍪

    Crumbl Cookies Weekly Menu

    For those of you who don’t know, Crumbl cookies has a menu that changes weekly, so don’t look at the calories if you’re on a diet. Check them out: https://crumblcookies.com/ If you have the app, you can order ahead and pick up in a snap.🍪

    Embarking on a Nostalgic Journey

    With coffee in hand and cookies in tow, it’s time to transform our humble abode into a cozy haven of relaxation and entertainment. Cue the movie marathon!  As avid fans of “Stranger Things,” we’ve embarked on a nostalgic journey through the series, reliving the thrills and chills of Hawkins, Indiana. It’s the perfect blend of excitement and nostalgia to brighten up our gloomy Saturday.🎬

    Movie night netflix
    Movie Night “Stranger Things”
    Don’t Miss Out on Stranger Things

    For those of you who have missed this series, go check it out on Netflix:🎬 [Stranger Things]

    A Day Filled with Laughter and Love

    As the rain pitter-patters against the windowpanes, we huddle together on the couch, popcorn at the ready, and immerse ourselves in the captivating world of Eleven and her gang.  With each episode, laughter echoes through the room, and the worries of the week melt away in the warmth of family bonding and shared experiences.🍿

    Jacob’s Infectious Joy

    Meanwhile, Jacob, our ever-enthusiastic partygoer, revels in the festivities, his eyes lighting up with delight at the prospect of movie night and chocolate chip cookies.  His infectious joy reminds us that even on the dreariest of days, there’s always room for laughter and happiness.🌟

    Cheers to Making the Most of Every Moment

    So here’s to turning a gloomy Saturday into a day filled with laughter, love, and unforgettable memories. With a little creativity and a whole lot of love, we’ve transformed this rainy day into a magical adventure that reminds us of the beauty of family and togetherness. Cheers to making the most of every moment, rain or shine! 🌈✨

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