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    How we plan for Halloween on Autism Island, hint Jacob ❤️ Superman! 🎃

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    Jacob will wear his favorite Superman shirt and pass out Candy!

    Planning Halloween for Children with Autism! 🎃

    Halloween is just around the corner, grab your planner and let’s start Planning Halloween for children with autism. While it’s not one of my “big” holidays (I’m more of a Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter fan), I know how much kids love to dress up—especially Jacob! 🎃 On Autism Island, planning ahead is essential to make sure the day goes smoothly, and for Jacob, that means staying in his comfort zone while having a little fun. His go-to? Super soft superhero shirts—his favorites being Superman and Ninja Turtles. 🦸‍♂️

     

    So, this year, we’ll be making sure Jacob has his Superman shirts clean and ready to go, maybe even a red cape, so he can enjoy the festivities and help hand out candy to trick-or-treaters. 🎁 The key to a calm, enjoyable Halloween? Planning ahead! Be sure to add your child’s costume or activities to their visual schedule, so there are no last-minute surprises that throw the day off track. How are using schedules improving our autistic child’s daily life?

     

    In this post, I’ll share how we prepare for Halloween to ensure it’s a fun, stress-free experience for Jacob and the whole family. Let’s get ready for a superhero Halloween on Autism Island!

     

    How We Plan for Halloween on Autism Island 🎃

    Planning Halloween for children with autism doesn’t have to be stressful or chaotic. For Jacob, we’ve learned that a little planning goes a long way. This year, Jacob will be channeling his favorite superhero, Superman! 🦸‍♂️ We keep things simple and comfortable, which is key to making sure Halloween is a fun and enjoyable experience for him.

     

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    #SensoryFriendlyCostumes

    Choosing an Autism-Friendly Halloween Costume 🦸‍♂️

    For Jacob, wearing costumes that he’s comfortable in is non-negotiable. So, instead of buying a new costume with itchy tags and uncomfortable materials, I’ll be pulling out one of his favorite Superman shirts—something we know works. I’ll grab a red cape to complete the look, but the key here is that Jacob is comfortable and happy.

    When planning Halloween for children with autism, it’s important to focus on sensory-friendly costumes. Jacob loves his soft shirts, and I don’t have to worry about any sensory issues because we’re using something he already enjoys wearing. This means no surprises or discomfort on the big day, which keeps the day stress-free for both of us.

    How Jacob has success daily without anxiety. #autismchallenges

    Incorporating Halloween into the Visual Schedule 🗓️

    One of the biggest autism-friendly Halloween tips is using a visual schedule to plan out the day. Jacob thrives on routine, so making sure Halloween activities are laid out ahead of time helps reduce any anxiety or last-minute surprises.

    Here’s how I break it down:
    – Two weeks before Halloween: We’ll put up fall-themed decorations like pumpkins. Jacob loves being involved, and having it on the schedule gives him something to look forward to.
    – One week before Halloween: We’ll go to the store to buy candy and a pumpkin for decorating. This way, Jacob can be part of the whole process, and he knows exactly what’s happening and when.
    – Halloween day: His Superman shirt and cape will be clean and ready to go. The candy will be out, and Jacob will be prepared to greet trick-or-treaters, which is one of his favorite parts of the day!

     

    Using Visual Schedules to Manage Transitions and Excitement 🎃✨

    Visual schedules are a game-changer when it comes to managing transitions and excitement for holidays like Halloween. They help children with autism anticipate what’s coming, which reduces stress and makes the day more enjoyable for everyone.

    If Jacob is having a tough day leading up to Halloween, I can point to the schedule and remind him, “Look, we get to decorate pumpkins tomorrow,” or “Look at the Halloween party on the schedule!” Redirecting his attention to something positive that he’s looking forward to works wonders in keeping things calm and keeping him focused on what’s to come. 🎨🎃

     

    Creating a Calm and Enjoyable Halloween 🎃🧘‍♀️

    Halloween on Autism Island is all about preparation and using tools like visual schedules to make the day smooth and fun. Here’s how we keep things calm:

    – Plan ahead: Make sure the costume is ready, decorations are up, and the candy is bought—all in advance.
    – Keep the schedule visible: Jacob can see the countdown to Halloween and the different activities planned. This helps him get excited while staying calm because he knows what to expect.
    – Set the environment: For us, that means fall decorations, some pumpkins, and, of course, his favorite Superman shirt.

    Having everything planned out not only helps Jacob but also helps me! If I have a busy day or even wake up not feeling my best, the schedule is already in place, and I can follow through without scrambling. The key to a successful Halloween, or any holiday, is preparation and making sure your child knows what’s coming next.

     

    Why Planning Ahead Reduces Anxiety 🎃💡

    Planning Halloween for children with autism isn’t just about making the day fun—it’s about setting your child up for success. By having everything on the visual schedule, Jacob can prepare himself mentally for what’s going to happen. He knows when we’re decorating, buying candy, and when he gets to wear his beloved Superman shirt.

    It also gives me peace of mind. I’m not rushing around last minute, and we can both enjoy the day without feeling overwhelmed or anxious.

     

    Enjoying the Holiday Together 🎃💙

    At the end of the day, the goal is to enjoy the holiday together without stress or frustration. With everything planned, Jacob knows exactly what to expect. The visual schedule helps us avoid last-minute chaos, and Jacob feels more comfortable and secure knowing his favorite Superman shirt is ready and his part in the festivities is clear.

    Halloween doesn’t have to be overwhelming—it can be an exciting and enjoyable time for both you and your child. Just remember to plan ahead, use a visual schedule, and keep things sensory-friendly for your child. Now, let’s get ready for a superhero Halloween on Autism Island! 🎃🦸‍♂️

     

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    Halloween Tips Used on Autism Island!
    Tips and Strategies for a Calm and Fun Halloween 🎃💡

    1. Use Visual Schedules 🗓️
    Visual schedules help children with autism prepare for what’s coming. Add Halloween activities like decorating, candy shopping, and costume prep to the schedule so your child knows what to expect and when. This reduces anxiety and ensures smoother transitions.

    2. Choose Sensory-Friendly Costumes 👕
    Pick a costume your child is already comfortable with. If they have favorite clothes, like a superhero shirt, incorporate that into their costume. Avoid itchy fabrics, tags, or anything that might cause discomfort.  https://surpassbehavioralhealth.com/guides/sensory-friendly-halloween/

    3. Plan Ahead to Avoid Last-Minute Stress 🎃
    Set dates on your calendar for activities like pumpkin carving or candy shopping. Planning ahead keeps things calm for both you and your child, and having everything ready prevents unnecessary stress on the big day.

    4. Use Redirection for Tough Moments 🌟
    If your child is feeling overwhelmed, redirect their focus to something positive on their schedule, like “Tomorrow we’re decorating pumpkins!” or “Look, we get to give out candy tonight!” Redirection helps them manage their emotions.

    5. Keep the Holiday Fun and Enjoyable 🧘‍♀️
    The goal is to make Halloween enjoyable for everyone, so don’t put too much pressure on yourself or your child. Stick to what works for your family and keep the day light and fun. Take time to enjoy the moments together!

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    The fire does not consume us, life on Autism Island! Autism daily.

    “When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.” 🔥 Isaiah 43:2
    Faith keeps us grounded and strong.

    Autism parenting challenge, Life on Autism Island!🔥🌊

    Autism parenting challenges and rewards are a part of our everyday life. After 27 years on this journey with our son Jacob, who just celebrated his birthday in August, we’ve faced many ups and downs. As a family of four—Jacob, his older brother, and us, his parents—we’ve grown and learned so much. But that doesn’t mean we have it all figured out. Life on Autism Island is full of surprises, adjustments, and yes, setbacks.

    Despite these challenges, we hold onto the promise from Isaiah 43:2: “When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.” 🔥 This journey—this fire—does not consume us. With love, grace, and a strong commitment to each other, we continue to push forward through whatever comes our way.

    As we move into fall, we are once again facing new transitions and adjustments, much like we discussed in last week’s blog on seasonal changes. In this post, I’ll share more about the daily realities of life on Autism Island, the struggles, the rewards, and how we navigate it all with resilience and hope.

    Autism parenting challenges and rewards 🔥💙

    Autism parenting challenges and rewards have been at the heart of our 27-year journey with Jacob. As we walk through each season of life on Autism Island, we’ve learned that faith, family, and preparation are key. With Jacob’s sensory sensitivities and rigid routines, every day brings its own challenges, but we’ve also seen the rewards of patience, love, and growth over time.

    This journey isn’t perfect, and it’s not without its setbacks. But with God’s grace and our commitment to each other, we’ve learned to use tools like visual schedules and strategies from the CALM framework to help Jacob navigate his world. Our journey is proof that, with perseverance, things can get better. 🙏💪

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    As an Autism Parent you will need CALM and humor!

    The Power of Visual Schedules 🗓️

    One of the main tools that has transformed our daily life is visual schedules. Jacob’s love for routine means that any change—especially moving from one season to another—can be hard for him to accept. For example, this morning was the first chilly day of the season, and it was time to wear a hoodie. Since Jacob is used to wearing short sleeves, this transition didn’t go smoothly at first.

    What helps is incorporating the clothing change into his visual schedule. I lay out his clothes in advance and point them out on the schedule, giving him time to process that he’ll need a jacket or hoodie before we head out the door. This practice helps him see what’s coming and allows us to avoid some of the meltdowns that could occur without preparation. Check out this dad 👉 https://pin.it/3l8R65S46

     

    Redirection: Moving from Resistance to Cooperation 🎯

    Even with a visual schedule in place, Jacob sometimes resists new transitions. But instead of getting frustrated, I use redirection to help shift his focus. For example, if he’s upset about the hoodie, I’ll point out something exciting coming up later in the day, like picking out a pumpkin or getting his favorite snack. 🎃🍪

    Another effective tactic we use is referencing a favorite movie. Jacob loves quoting movies, so we might start exchanging movie quotes to lighten the mood and redirect his attention from the challenge at hand to something he enjoys. This method works wonders in getting him out the door without turning a small issue into a bigger battle. Stop engaging in power struggles! Use redirection for your autistic child.

     

    Faith, Family, and the CALM Framework ✨💪

    As we move through life on Autism Island, our faith has been a crucial part of how we manage autism parenting challenges and rewards. Isaiah 43:2 reminds us that the fire does not consume us, and we hold onto that promise every day. Ways to have peace? Creating time for yourself, not just your child with autism.

    Our family has learned to lean on God, and each other, showing love and grace as we guide Jacob through the tough moments. This means practicing the CALM strategies consistently:

    – C. onsistent Action Forward: Maintaining routines and schedules helps Jacob feel more secure.
    – A. lways Celebrate Wins: When Jacob follows the schedule, we celebrate, even if it’s something small. 🎉
    – L. earning to Create Schedules: Visual schedules are essential to our daily life.
    – M. indset: Keeping a calm and patient mindset helps Jacob feel more at ease.

    By using these strategies, we’ve been able to grow as a family and give Jacob the structure and support he needs to thrive.

     

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    Autism Daily Life can be difficult, journal to see your progress!
     Reflecting on the Journey 📔

    I also keep a journal to document our experiences. Writing down our daily challenges, feelings, and wins gives me a way to reflect on how far we’ve come. Looking back at times when we struggled, it’s clear that the consistent use of visual schedules, redirection, and our faith in God has made a real difference in our lives.

    When I feel overwhelmed, I go back to those journal entries to remind myself of God’s faithfulness and the progress we’ve made. It’s not always easy, but reflecting on our journey gives me the strength to keep going, knowing that each day we’re learning and growing as a family. I’m also sharing our experience to hopefully help others who are feeling frustrated or lost.

     

    Give Yourself and Your Child Grace 🌟💙

    We’ve come a long way from the early days of Jacob’s diagnosis, but that doesn’t mean every day is smooth. There are still tough moments, and emotions can change quickly in our home. Jacob can go from happy to grumpy in a matter of minutes, and some days it feels like we’re walking through fire. But I remind myself that faith, preparation, and kindness are what carry us through.

    If I can leave you with one piece of advice, it’s this: give yourself and your child grace. Don’t expect everything to be perfect. Practice using the strategies that work—like visual schedules and redirection—and trust that things will get better with time. The more you prepare, the more you’ll find moments of joy, even in the midst of challenges. You also don’t have to walk alone!

     

    Tips and Strategies for Navigating Autism Season Challenges 🌟

    1. Use Visual Schedules Consistently 🗓️

    Visual schedules are a lifeline for children with autism, especially when navigating seasonal transitions like moving from summer to fall. Consistency is key. By showing your child what to expect ahead of time, you reduce anxiety and help them adjust to new routines with ease. Whether it’s putting on a hoodie or switching up daily activities, make sure it’s reflected in their schedule.

    2. Practice Redirection 🎯

    When resistance or frustration arises, redirection can be your best tool. Shift the focus to something your child enjoys—whether it’s a favorite activity, snack, or even a beloved movie quote. This method helps steer them away from negative emotions and keeps the day moving forward.

    3. Celebrate Small Wins 🎉

    Even small victories deserve to be celebrated. If your child follows the visual schedule, give praise or a reward, no matter how minor the accomplishment may seem. Positive reinforcement builds confidence and encourages them to keep progressing. Celebrate wins as they come, and remember, progress is progress!

    4. Keep the CALM Framework in Mind ✨

    – C. onsistent Action Forward: Maintaining routines and schedules helps Jacob feel more secure.
    – A. lways Celebrate Wins: When Jacob follows the schedule, we celebrate, even if it’s something small. 🎉
    – L. earning to Create Schedules: Visual schedules are essential to our daily life.
    – M. indset: Keeping a calm and patient mindset helps Jacob feel more at ease.

    When you use the CALM framework, you’re giving your child the tools they need to navigate their day, while also giving yourself the space to be patient and kind.

    5. Incorporate Faith and Tradition 🙏

    If your family leans on faith, incorporating Bible verses, prayers, or spiritual practices into your child’s daily routine can create a sense of grounding. For Jacob, we use Bible verses as writing practice, and during holidays like Christmas and Easter, we use visual countdowns to help him understand important events. Building these traditions into your routine offers spiritual growth while maintaining structure.

    6. Journal Your Journey 📔

    Keeping a journal can help you track your child’s progress and reflect on how far you’ve come. When the tough days hit, looking back on past victories will remind you that you’re not alone in this journey. Journaling gives you the perspective needed to celebrate your wins and learn from the challenges. Remember the M in CALM is mindset-your mental health is important!

    7. Give Yourself and Your Child Grace 💙

    You won’t get everything right every day—and that’s okay. Give yourself the grace to make mistakes and learn from them. Give your child grace as they learn to navigate life with autism. By offering love, patience, and kindness, you’re making the journey more manageable for everyone.

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    How to stop stressing over Fall season changes? Autism season challenges.

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    Living on Autism Island means that when the seasons change, challenges are sure to follow.

    Autism season challenges are real—especially when it comes to navigating seasonal changes. If you are a parent of an autistic child you already know this! Living here on Autism Island means that every shift in weather brings its own set of hurdles, and fall is no exception.

    In North Carolina, the fall season is a time of false starts: one morning it’s chilly enough for a hoodie, and by afternoon, we’re back to T-shirts and shorts. For my son Jacob, these transitions are anything but simple. He’s still clinging to his favorite short-sleeved shirts and shorts, even when it’s time to bundle up. It’s not just about clothes—it’s about the emotional and sensory challenges that come with change. It takes Jacob a while to accept the new reality of cooler weather and swap his comfortable summer clothes for something unfamiliar.

    In this post, we’ll dive into how you can help your child handle these seasonal transitions without stress and make the seasonal shift as smooth as possible. Let’s work together to make these changes more manageable for both you and your child. 🌟

    Autism Season Challenges 🍁

    Living on Autism Island means that when the seasons change, challenges are sure to follow. Here in North Carolina, fall is a time of false starts and unexpected weather shifts. One morning it’s cool, and Jacob might need a hoodie, but by afternoon, he’s back to wanting his short-sleeved shirts and shorts. The transition from summer to fall is particularly tough on Jacob, who has sensory sensitivities and a love for routine. Autism season challenges aren’t just about the weather—they’re about changing routines, sensory struggles, and working to make transitions easier for your child.

    Fall Changes are Tough Autistic kids  🌧️👕

    Children with autism often have rigid and ritualistic behaviors, which can make it hard to tolerate changes in routine. Jacob’s moderate autism makes seasonal transitions a major event. Not only does he have preferences for certain clothes and materials, but he also struggles with sensory issues. Anything he wears must be soft to the touch, with no tags or textured appliqués that might irritate him. He likes what he likes, and he wants to wear it over and over again. Check out this post I found 👉 https://holfamily.com/natural-solutions-for-sensory-processing-in-kids/

    So when it’s time to swap out his favorite summer clothes for warmer fall attire, it’s the start of a season-long negotiation.

    CALM Strategies for Autism Season Challenges 🗓️🍂

    I’ve learned that to successfully navigate these autism season challenges, it’s essential to have a strategy in place—one that combines visual schedules, consistency, and redirection. These strategies are part of the CALM framework I use to guide Jacob through these transitions. Here’s how they break down:

    1. Consistent Action Forward: Visual Schedules are Key 📅

    When it comes to changes in routine, especially seasonal ones, consistency is key. Visual schedules are a game-changer for us. A schedule helps Jacob understand what’s coming next without overwhelming him with a lot of verbal explanations. Visuals allow him to see the sequence of his day and prepare for any changes, reducing anxiety and making him feel more in control.

    For example, when the weather starts to change, I add a visual of a hoodie or pants to his schedule for the morning routine. It’s a gentle nudge that says, “Hey, it’s time to dress a little differently.” If he knows in advance that a change is coming, he’s much more willing to cooperate.

    2. Incentives for Cooperation 🎉

    Whenever Jacob follows his schedule, especially when it involves a change he’s not excited about, we make sure to celebrate. Our incentive system is simple: if Jacob sticks to his schedule for the week, on Fridays he can pick out something he likes on Amazon—a new movie, game, or toy. 🎮📦

    This reward system helps him stay motivated and makes those tough transitions a little more bearable. It’s a win-win because Jacob feels rewarded for his efforts, and I get to see him learning how to manage changes with less stress. 4 Things I Wish I Would Have Known After Getting the Autism Diagnosis

    3. Learning to Redirect: Shifting Focus to What He Loves 🎬🍁

    One of the most effective strategies for handling resistance is redirection. If Jacob is struggling with putting on a hoodie or is upset about changing clothes, I’ll gently redirect his attention to something he enjoys. I might point to his schedule and say, “Look, we’re going to pick out a pumpkin later!” or “After this, we’ll have your favorite snack.” 🍪

    Jacob loves movies, so sometimes I’ll use a movie quote or remind him of something we’re planning to do together. By redirecting his focus to something positive, I can help him move past his discomfort and prepare for the next step in his day. Stop engaging in power struggles! Use redirection for your autistic child.

    4. Mindset Matters: Stay Calm and Consistent 💙🧠

    One of the most important pieces of the CALM framework is mindset. If I get frustrated or let my tone become negative, Jacob’s attitude escalates right along with mine. I have to remind myself that Jacob isn’t purposely resisting change; he’s struggling to cope with it. By staying calm and consistent in my approach, I set the tone for the day and help guide him through those challenging moments.

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    CALM over Chaos and frustration! Mindset is key!

    Creating Strategies for a Smooth Transition 🧣🧦

    Whenever possible, planning ahead is your best defense against autism season challenges. A schedule that includes not only the day’s activities but also clothing choices can help prepare your child for the shift in seasons. For the first few days of any change—whether it’s needing to wear a hoodie in the morning or switching to long pants—it’s going to be tough. But if you stay consistent with the schedule and maintain a calm, patient approach, those challenges will start to ease up.

    Here are some practical strategies that work for us:

    • Add clothing changes to the visual schedule: Make sure your child can see that there’s a new item of clothing expected for the day.
    • Celebrate small wins: Every time they follow the schedule, reinforce that behavior with a reward or praise.
    • Plan for redirection: When frustration starts to show, redirect their focus to something fun or comforting—like a favorite snack, a trip to pick out a pumpkin, or even a movie quote that makes them laugh.
    • Stay calm and be consistent: Your mood can set the tone for theirs, so keep calm, and stick to your plan.
    Facing Season Changes with Confidence 🌟

    Season changes are never easy for children with autism, but with the right strategies, you can help your child feel more in control and less anxious. The first few days of any new routine will always be a little challenging, but with consistency, redirection, and visual schedules, you can make the transition smoother for everyone in the family.

    Don’t be afraid to try new methods and tailor these tips to fit your child’s needs. Remember, every small step toward making these transitions easier is a big step forward for your family. Let’s face these autism season challenges together and create a season full of comfort, routine, and happiness. 🍁🌞

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    Want Coffee in peace? Use Visual Schedules and strategies from my CALM frameworks.😉
    Today’s Tips and Strategies for Autism Season Challenges 🍁🧣

    1. Use Visual Schedules 📅
    Add clothing changes and seasonal activities to your child’s visual schedule. Seeing it ahead of time helps them prepare for what’s coming and reduces anxiety over transitions.

    2. Be Consistent with Routines 🔄
    Stick to your plan! Consistency builds trust and confidence. When you introduce new fall clothes or routines, keep them consistent each day until they become part of the norm.

    3. Celebrate Small Wins 🎉
    Praise your child for any cooperation with the new routine. Even if they wear that hoodie for just five minutes, it’s progress! A reward or positive reinforcement can go a long way.

    4. Redirect and Stay Positive 🌟
    When resistance happens, shift their attention to something fun or exciting. Bring up a favorite snack, a planned fall activity like picking out a pumpkin, or use movie quotes they love to lighten the mood.

    5. Stay Calm and Breathe 🧘‍♀️
    Your energy sets the tone. If you stay calm and patient during those tough moments, it’s easier for your child to do the same. Remember, change is hard for them, and your calmness is their anchor.

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    Stop engaging in power struggles! Use redirection for your autistic child.

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    We can choose to use “redirection” to help guide our children through their emotions.

    Stop Getting into Battles with Your Autistic Child🛑

    As an autism parent, using redirection for your autistic child can save the day. I know firsthand how hard it can be to keep your cool when things aren’t going smoothly. This morning was one of those moments for me. Jacob was having a rough time, and I had to make a choice: engage in a battle of emotions, or try something different to turn things around. I chose the latter.

     

    I’ve spoken before about how my husband and Jacob’s brother are great at redirecting him using music or movie quotes (they love doing voices of his favorite characters!). My strength, though, is a bit different. I may not know if Jacob has a headache or if sensory overload is making things worse, but I’ve learned to take a deep breath, shift his focus, and remind him of something good that’s coming up in his day. How my husband changes Jacob’s bad mood with music! #musicandautism.

     

    When the frustration is building, the key is not to react negatively—even when emotions run high. If I lose my cool, Jacob’s emotions will escalate, and we’ll both be in for a bad day. Remember, there’s a lot going on beneath the surface. It could be sensory overload, feeling unwell, or just waking up on the wrong side of the bed. Whatever it is, we all have a choice in those moments: to meet our child with patience and kindness or let frustration take over.

     

    Let’s talk about how we can approach these moments differently—how to redirect and refocus your child without getting into battles. Trust me, it can change the whole day for the better!

     

    Using redirection for your autistic child↗️

     

    Mornings with an autistic child can be unpredictable, and today was no exception. Jacob’s dad, a firefighter, had just left for a 24-hour shift, and I decided I wanted to grab a coffee from Starbucks. It seemed like a simple enough plan, but Jacob had other ideas.

     

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    Engage in battles or Redirection?

    This Morning’s Battle: Coffee vs. Grumpy Mood ☕😡

     

    As I walked through the house, Jacob came out of his room, visibly grumpy. I greeted him with a “Good morning, buddy!” and suggested he get dressed so we could head to Starbucks. His response? “No, thank you,” followed by a quick exit back to his room. 

     

    At this point, I had a choice: I could push back, get frustrated, or find a way to “redirect” Jacob’s emotions. I chose the latter. I calmly stepped to his bedroom door and reminded him, “Go ahead and get dressed, buddy. We’re going to Starbucks, and remember, later today, we’re getting Panera Bread for lunch!” (That’s his favorite on this particular day.)

     

    While he wasn’t thrilled, the reminder of something good coming later in the day made a difference. Though his mood didn’t completely shift, the redirection helped enough to get him in the car. 🚗

     

    How I Use Redirection to Turn Around the Day 🔄

     

    As we drove to Starbucks, I used small opportunities to distract Jacob from his grumpy mood. I pointed out the pumpkins on display for fall (he’s been wanting one) and said, “Maybe next week, we can go pick out a pumpkin to start decorating for fall!” 🎃

     

    Jacob loves movies, so I used “movie quotes” and references to things he enjoys to shift his attention away from whatever was bothering him. This simple strategy of redirecting him to something positive or familiar helps him refocus and allows us both to have a better day. I’m trying to reset and reframe so he’s able to choose a different direction in his thinking and feelings.

     

    Why Redirection is Key for Us 🎯

     

    Jacob can wake up or switch emotions very quickly during the day. Sometimes he’s fine, and then something triggers a mood change. As his family, we try to manage this by focusing on what makes him happy, like discussing things he’s looking forward to. 

     

    The truth is, I don’t always understand what’s causing Jacob’s emotional shifts. Is it sensory overload? Is he feeling unwell? Or is he simply feeling the emotions of a character from a movie he’s watching? 🌀 Jacob often mirrors the feelings of the characters in his favorite movies, whether they are happy, sad, or angry.

     

    Our job as his family is to help him navigate these emotions, even when we don’t fully understand them. Living on “Autism Island,” as I often say, requires us to get creative in how we support Jacob. Redirection helps prevent emotional spirals that could lead to a difficult day. Using redirection techniques for autism behaviors keeps all of our emotions in check.

     

    The Reality of Being an Autism Parent 🌟

     

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    Start where you are each day and move forward!

    I’m human, too. There are mornings when I’m just not in the mood to deal with grumpy behavior or negative attitudes. But as much as I may wish for an easier day, Jacob didn’t wake up healed from his autism. So here we are. 

     

    I can choose to escalate the situation by snapping at him or demanding he “get it together,” or I can take a deep breath, find something to redirect his attention, and guide him to a better mood. It might be a “movie quote”, a reminder of something exciting coming up, or even just suggesting we get cookies from Harris Teeter tomorrow. 🍪

     

    Once I get him to exchange a few happy quotes or engage in something positive, I try to build on that momentum. From there, I steer the conversation toward something else I know he’ll enjoy, like a fall pumpkin or planning for the next outing.  

    https://www.speciallearninghouse.com/movies-about-autism/

     

    Setting Boundaries with Love ❤️

     

    While I want to protect and guide my child, I also need to balance that with “setting boundaries”. If Jacob continues in a grumpy mood or begins speaking disrespectfully, there are consequences. I can’t allow him to treat me or others poorly, because that’s not the world we live in. Respect and kindness are essential, even when emotions are running high.

     

    However, I understand that Jacob’s emotions are real and overwhelming for him. While I don’t always know what’s going on inside his mind, I can still offer support through redirection, patience, and a gentle reminder of what’s coming up that he can look forward to.

     

    The Power of Redirection and Patience 💡

     

    Being an autism parent means using redirection techniques for autism can save the day. I’m making decisions every day about how to handle emotional outbursts or mood swings. We can choose to engage in battles, or we can choose to use “redirection” to help guide our children through their emotions. 

     

    For Jacob, redirection helps him focus on the positive, whether it’s a favorite movie quote, a reminder of an upcoming treat, or even a pumpkin for fall. These small, thoughtful moments make a world of difference in his day—and in mine.

     

    As parents, we can’t always control the emotions our children feel, but we can help them navigate through them. With patience, redirection, and love, we can make each day a little brighter for our children and for ourselves.

    Today’s Tip and Strategy

    Try using redirection instead! 🙌✨


    In today’s blog, I’m sharing real-life tips on how to handle meltdowns and manage emotional outbursts with love, patience, and even movie quotes! 🎬💙 Redirection can shift your child’s focus, helping create a calmer day for everyone.

     

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