How I learned to handle hidden behavior challenges of autism at Educating Jacob.
Β The Hidden Behavior Challenges of Autism π§©
I didnβt know that creating interactive activities and visual schedules would help Jacob with the hidden behavior challenges of autism. It was, and continues to be, a game changer. π Not only did having a daily schedule give him a sense of security and predictability, but it also reduced his anxiety, taught him independence, and showed him he was capable of learning and following instructions. β Β
In the beginning, I was so distraught over his lack of communication, his difficulty interacting with others, and the struggle to make friends that I couldnβt see how something as simple as structured activities and visual schedules would make such a difference. But let me tell youβboy, did I learn a lot! You donβt know what you donβt know! π€―

The Power of Community and Support in Autism Behavior Management π€
One thing I wish I had back then was a community, a mentor, or a coach. While I had family, I didnβt have someone who had walked the same road. πΆββοΈ I found some guidance through teachers and seminars, where I learned about strategies that helped motivate Jacob to work and engage.
I wanted someone to help my child talk, enjoy his family, make friends, go to regular classrooms, and have peers who genuinely wanted to play with him. But the truth is, navigating the hidden behavior challenges of autism is a long road. π€οΈ You must be open to trying new things, surrounding yourself with people who understand, and building a plan that works for your family.
This journey isnβt about finding a quick fix or “curing” autism. Itβs about celebrating wins π, creating peace instead of chaos, and learning what you donβt yet know you need. Until you find ways to lessen those hidden behavior challenges of autism you’ll most likely experience chaos and frustration.

Why Early Intervention Matters for Autism Behavior Management β³
As a teacher, I can tell you that ignoring early diagnosis and waiting for school to handle everything is a nightmareβfor both the child and the teacher. π« Iβve seen kids start kindergarten without speaking or interacting, and suddenly, theyβre thrown into a structured environment where theyβre expected to follow verbal instructions they donβt fully understand.
Here’s another post you might find helpful:πΒ Β Mastering Autism Behavior Management: 3 Strategies for Success

“You Donβt Know What You Donβt Know” β
Most autistic children have receptive and expressive language delays, meaning they struggle with both understanding and expressing their needs. They probably also have some sensory challenges. This leads to frustration, anxiety, and eventually challenging behaviors. β οΈ Many parents want their child to be treated like everyone else, but the reality is that without support, the child will experience unnecessary stress.
Hereβs what happens when a child isnβt prepared for a traditional classroom:
- β They donβt understand expectations.
- β They feel overwhelmed by constant verbal instructions.
- β They seek control through tantrums or repetitive behaviors.
Visual Schedules: A Key to Reducing Hidden Behavior Challenges of Autism π
A diagnosis, a plan, and a structured environment are essential. When Jacob was diagnosed at age 4, he was placed in a preschool class for children with learning delays. But even there, his teacher wasnβt prepared for his unique needs. He wouldnβt listen to books being read in a group, he avoided activities, and instead of interacting with other kids, he was fascinated by the bathroom light switch. π‘
I put him in that class because I was told to, but I quickly realized that without the right support, it wasnβt helping. After another meeting, he was moved to an autism-specific classroom. That teacher and staff were amazingβthey had a visual schedule ready for him on day one, using pictures to communicate his daily routine. πΈ
I immediately copied this method at home, using visuals for daily tasks like:
- π½οΈ Eat dinner
- π§Έ Playtime
- π₯ Watch a movie
- π¦· Brush teeth
- π Take a bath
With consistent structure both at home and at school, Jacobβs anxiety decreased, and he began to thrive. π±
Finding the Right Learning Environment for Autism Success π‘
Even with the improvements, the classroom setting still wasnβt the best fit for Jacob, given his high needs. Thatβs when I made the decision to homeschool him. βοΈ Now, homeschooling is a story for another day, but what I learned is this: structure, reducing anxiety, and creating environments that support interaction and independence are key.
I had to learn what I didnβt knowβI had to experiment, adapt, and embrace Jacobβs unique way of learning. And you can too! π‘
Here’s another post you might find helpful:πΒ Β Why I Started Educating Jacob: Support and Resources for Autism Families
Final Thoughts π
If you take anything from Jacobβs story, let it be this: Your family has to take action, do something different, and have grit! πͺ Autism is not a one-size-fits-all journey, but when you start implementing schedules, reducing anxiety, and creating supportive environments, youβll see a difference. You donβt have to wait until things get worseβstart today! π
πΒ Join Autism Thrive Tribe! π
Navigating the hidden behavior challenges of autism isnβt something you should do alone. Thatβs why I created πΒ Autism Thrive Tribeβa community for parents who need support, guidance, and real solutions from someone who has been there.
You donβt have to figure this out on your own. Join us today and start learning what you donβt yet knowβbecause your childβs future depends on it. ππ€
Here’s another post you might find helpful:πΒ https://autismlittlelearners.com/autism-and-behavior/