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  • Tired and Frustrated Mom! Sensory Challenges for the Autism Spectrum

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    Tired and frustrated? Try something new, create a schedule!

    Tired and Frustrated Mom!

    Picture this: It’s a sunny afternoon, and I’m gearing up for what most people would consider a mundane task—cutting Jacob’s hair. But let me assure you, when it comes to Jacob, even the simplest tasks have the potential to rival a Hollywood blockbuster.

     

    As I approach him with the scissors in hand, it’s as if I’m about to face the final showdown with a galactic villain. Will he embrace this haircutting quest with the grace of a Jedi, or will it turn into a dramatic performance worthy of an Oscar?

    This is not Jacob pictured but the crying is what happened when haircuts first started!
    This is not Jacob pictured but the crying is what happened when haircuts first started!

    Hygiene, haircuts, nails, shaving, and clothes—these daily routines that most of us take for granted are an entirely different universe for Jacob. Sensory challenges are his constant companions, making these tasks feel like epic battles. But fear not, for we have a secret weapon: the power of schedules. Not sure about schedules check out this post: https://educatingjacob.com/how-using-schedules-can-change-your-childs-life/

    In this journey, I’ll share with you the humorous yet practical strategies we’ve learned along the way. Together, we’ll explore how to turn everyday routines into manageable missions, conquer sensory sensitivities, and empower children like Jacob to navigate the world of hygiene with confidence.

    So, fasten your seatbelts, tired travelers. We’re about to embark on an extraordinary expedition through the sensory cosmos. Welcome to the world of Jacob, where choices, routines, and a sprinkle of humor light the way to success in the realm of hygiene, haircuts, nails, shaving, and clothes.

    Sensory Challenges and Autism Spectrum

    Trying to keep up with everything among meltdowns and an endless to do list!
    Trying to keep up with everything among meltdowns and an endless to do list!

    I’ll be the first to admit that when I first started this journey with Jacob, I often found myself feeling like a tired and frustrated mom. The sensory challenges that come with autism can be overwhelming. It’s like trying to solve a puzzle while blindfolded, with the pieces constantly changing shape.

    One of our greatest challenges was navigating Jacob’s sensory sensitivities when it came to basic hygiene routines. Let’s dive into the world of sensory challenges, shall we?

    Haircuts: A Battle of Epic Proportions

    Imagine trying to cut the hair of a child who is hypersensitive to touch and sound. For Jacob, haircuts were akin to entering the lair of a fire-breathing dragon. The slightest snip of the scissors could send him into a tailspin of sensory overload. But, as every hero knows, the best way to conquer a dragon is with a well-thought-out strategy.

    We decided to put haircuts on a schedule. Not just any schedule, mind you, but a visual one that Jacob could understand. This transformed the dreaded haircut into a predictable event, and predictability is the shield against sensory chaos.

    Manicures: Navigating Tactile Sensitivities

    Manicures, with their clippers and nail files, presented another sensory battlefield. Jacob’s tactile sensitivities made these seemingly simple tasks feel like climbing Mount Everest barefoot. But we weren’t about to back down from this challenge.

    We integrated manicures into our routine, always at a time when Jacob felt most comfortable. The tactile experiences were paired with his favorite sensory activities, turning nail care into an adventure rather than an ordeal.

    Shaving: The Quest for Sensory-Friendly Solutions

    As Jacob grew older, shaving became a new quest. The vibrations and sensations of an electric razor were overwhelming. We turned to alternatives, experimenting until we found a solution that worked for him.

    Clothes: Navigating Fabric Sensitivities

    Jake's clothes for going out!
    These clothes are for going out and sensory friendly.

    Clothing choices were another sensory battleground. Jacob had strong preferences for certain textures, and he wasn’t shy about expressing his displeasure with others. Our solution? Letting him choose his outfits for the day from a selection of sensory-friendly clothes. This gave him a sense of control and reduced the daily clothing battles.

    Have Hope!

    Take heart, it was no easy feat, and there were moments when I felt like I was starring in a sitcom of my own. But with patience, creativity, and the power of routines, we found ways to navigate these sensory challenges together. Jacob has grown more confident and capable, and I’ve learned that sometimes, a little humor can go a long way in making even the most challenging situations a bit more manageable.

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    Here are some tips to De-Stress!

    So, to all the tired and frustrated moms out there, remember, you’re not alone on this journey. With a sprinkle of humor and a dash of creativity, you too can conquer sensory challenges and help your child thrive on the autism spectrum.

    Take care of yourself! Take a walk, eat healthy and talk with your friends. You’re no good to anyone if you’re always tired and stressed.

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  • 3 Simple ways to use choices to make connections and learning fun for those on Autism Spectrum!

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    This is a picture of Jacob’s Monday-Friday zippered pouches that hold his school work!

    First, I created schedules for Jacob so that he could choose the order in which they were completed. Second, Jacob could choose what activities he wanted to do once the schedule was done. Third, by using schedules with built-in choices, I gave Jacob the predictability and structure that he needs to keep anxiety and emotional regulation in check. 📅✅

    Choices are like the secret weapons in our arsenal of connection and learning, especially when it comes to navigating the labyrinth of the autism spectrum. If you’re on this roller coaster of a ride, you know that sometimes it’s like having Darth Vader unexpectedly show up in a rom-com movie – a mix of surprises, challenges, and a few laughs along the way. 🎢🧩😄

    Jacob’s Journey: From Chore Dread to Delight

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    Celebrate all tasks and chores completed!

    Enter Jacob, our household hero 🦸‍♂️ who embarked on a chore journey that promised both epic battles and heartwarming victories. Picture this: the first time we floated the idea of chores, I was half-expecting dramatic background music à la Darth Vader’s theme – because, let’s be honest, even chores can feel like an intergalactic quest. 🎶🌌

    Armed with Patience, Creativity, and Humor

    But fear not, fellow adventurers, because we faced this challenge armed with an unshakable combo of patience, creativity, and yes, a touch of humor. With lightsabers… okay, maybe not actual lightsabers, but definitely a light-hearted approach, we ventured to transform Jacob’s perspective on chores from dread to delight. 💡✨😄

    Transforming Mundane Tasks into Cosmic Missions

    At the core of this transformation were three simple yet potent tips that held the power to rewrite the chore playbook. We delved into the world of schedules, weaving choices into Jacob’s day that resonated with his quest for predictability. These choices became more than just checkboxes; they were his way of cracking the code of the world around him, a chance to have his say in the grand cosmic dance. 📅✅🌟

    Empowerment Through Choice: A Path to Connection

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    Use schedules with built in choice for connection and learning!

    Jacob has problems with receptive and expressive language. Having a conversation isn’t happening, and he will shut down because it takes too long to process. He loves movies and quotes from them because they say the same thing every time. Speaking with a person is different every time. 🗣️🤐🎬

    Schedules are short, sweet and easy for Jacob to understand! It eases his anxiety for the day and gives him the predictability he needs to help regulate his emotions. 📅✨😌

    Choices at Home: More Than Chores

    Giving Jacob choices in the form of visuals, or a schedule where he can choose when to complete something during his day makes him empowered and confident. It also makes him happy and connected with me for helping him understand. It also shows I care to include the choices he enjoys along with chores that need to be done as part of the family. 🎨⏰😊👩‍👦‍👦

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    This is Jacob drawing something from a movie cover after homework is complete!
    Choices at School: Bridging Learning and Connection 🏫

    At school during the day, I’m a special education teacher. I give my students schedules based on their present level in academic areas, and choices after the work are based on their preferences. 📚👩‍🏫

    Creating Independence and Connection 🌟

    If they complete my work, they are allowed to do activities that are more to their liking. They are more willing to do my work and are happy to come to my room for work when they feel they will have a say in what happens there. 🙌😊

    If you are looking for something just for your child on the spectrum you might look into activities like summer camp through the Autism Society. Check out this post: https://www.bloglovin.com/blogs/embracing-spectrum-12194587/winning-lottery-2729998147

    Jacob’s Journey: Visual Schedules and Independence 🛤️

    In the beginning of Jacob’s journey, in order to get Jacob to understand his day, we used visual schedules. His day was a series of pictures that told him what to do; he also had pictures of activities that he loved to do placed in between work or chores to keep him happy and moving through the day. 🖼️🕒

    Nee help with schedules? Check out this post: Help! 3 Ways a schedule can help sensory issues and communication barriers? #Autism Challenges🧩

    From Dread to Delight: The Power of Choice 💡

    This allowed me as a mom to take a breath and do my own chores. After all, our job is to create independent humans! The mother bear in me wanted to protect and keep him happy, but the tired, worn-out momma needed him to learn and start becoming independent without being a “me” monster no one wanted to be around. 🐻💤

    Three Simple Strategies for Choices and Connection 🔄

    1. I created schedules with work, and he was able to choose the order in which he completed them. ✅
    2. After the work he chose was completed, Jacob could choose what activities he wanted to do. 🎨🎮
    3. By using schedules and built-in choices, I gave Jacob predictability and structure that he needs to keep anxiety and emotional regulation in check. 🗓️

    Embrace the Adventure of Choices
    So, prepare to embark on a journey where choices light up the path and humor is our trusty sidekick. Life is a series of choices, and each choice has the potential to create ripples of change. So, are you ready to wield your lightsaber of choice and embrace the adventure? Let’s do this! 🌟💫

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  • Create an autism friendly summer schedule for your child!

     

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    Jacob having fun at Barnes and Noble!

    Why do I need a summer schedule? Children with autism or any learning disability need help understanding their day and transitioning. A routine will help reduce anxiety and meltdowns because the child will understand what’s expected of them and what is coming next.

    Like me, my students are looking forward to summer break. Without a plan or schedule, they may cause a lot of chaos at home. Parents are wondering, “What in the world? How can you be unhappy when you have no alarm clock and all this free time to do what you want?”

    I understand, I’ve asked myself the same question as a mom and a teacher! As a mom, it felt like I didn’t have one free minute with the kids home unless they were in bed at night. I was tired and wondering why my home was so chaotic. 

    With Jacob, there were meltdowns, chaos, and frustration for the whole family. Because he has trouble with conversations and communication, walking into the room and asking him to do things almost always resulted in meltdowns or some form of resistance. 

    I figured out how to create autism friendly schedules:

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    This is a typical daily summer schedule during the week.

    Once I figured out that schedules could be used to show Jacob his day without verbal communication (demands), we started getting somewhere. In the schedule above each line has multiple steps. He has done some version of this for years so it’s easier now. My home was free from the chaos of meltdowns, anxiety, and rebellion that had me frazzled and frustrated as a mom.

    Schedules should start very simple and become a full day or week of activities. You can even do monthly schedules once your child understands what’s happening and is happy using them. 

    To start, my first summer schedule was a : First – Then schedule.

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    Simple First Then Schedule

    To start, my first schedule was a First – Then. Meaning, first you do this…. Then you get this. After this is accomplished and your child is successful, then you can add another task. You can make a list and use pictures. There are so many different ways you can create a schedule and make it fit your life and your child’s needs.

    Jacob’s daily work schedule always has a small chapter book of some kind to keep him reading. During the summer Barnes and Noble usually offers free books to kids who read and turn in their list. Ours is in Fayetteville, NC. Here is the pdf link if you are interested! BNKidsSummerReading85x11 http://chrome-extension://efaidnbmnnnibpcajpcglclefindmkaj/https://dispatch.barnesandnoble.com/content/dam/ccr/bnstores/kids/misc/2023/BNKidsSummerReading85x11.pdf

    Jacob is now 25 years old, and we use a monthly schedule to:

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    List daily schedule and add in specials so your child knows whats coming in days ahead!

    Jacob is now 25 years old, and we use a monthly schedule to keep track of shaving, haircut, etc. Doctor visits and Mom and Dad’s schedule is also posted. He has Monday-Sunday zippered bags that have activities (worksheets, small chapter books, etc.) that are daily. He also has daily things on his schedule, like breakfast, taking meds, taking a shower, etc.

    When we started this journey, there were so many things going through my mind and scaring me about the diagnosis of autism that creating a schedule never entered my mind as something that would help us so much.

    A summer schedule for a child with autism is crucial for several reasons:

    1. Predictability and Structure: Children with autism thrive on predictability and structure. A summer schedule gives them a sense of routine and familiarity, which can help reduce anxiety and meltdowns. Knowing what to expect throughout the day can provide security and stability.
    2. Visual Representation: Children with autism often benefit from visual support. A visual schedule, with pictures or symbols representing each activity, helps them understand and anticipate the sequence of events. It serves as a visual reminder of what comes next, smoothing transitions and reducing confusion.
    3. Enhancing Communication: For children with communication challenges, a schedule is a non-verbal way to understand and communicate their needs and activities. It can help them express their preferences, make choices, and participate in planning their day.
    4. Promoting Independence: A structured schedule empowers children with autism to develop independent skills. They can learn to follow the schedule, complete tasks independently, and take ownership of their daily routines. This promotes self-confidence and self-reliance.
    5. Facilitating Skill Development: A summer schedule can include activities targeting specific skills or goals. It allows for intentional planning of activities that promote learning, socialization, sensory integration, communication, and other areas of development. By incorporating therapy or educational activities into the schedule, the child can continue progressing during the summer months.
    6. Supporting the Whole Family: A schedule benefits not only the child with autism but also the entire family. It provides a structure for the family’s daily life, reduces chaos and stress, and ensures everyone is on the same page. Schedules help parents and caregivers plan and organize their time effectively, knowing what activities or support the child needs at specific times.
    Summer Chaos Free:
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    Pic’s of the family over the years during summer!

    I am happy to report that as a mom and special education teacher, schedules help me to communicate with Jacob and my students and also decrease anxiety during the day. School teachers will also say that schedules are necessary to keep everyone on track and developing skills.

    Every child is unique!

    Remember, every child with autism is unique, so the summer schedule should be tailored to their individual needs and interests. It should balance routine and flexibility, allowing for spontaneous activities and free time while maintaining a basic structure. 

     

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