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  • How I learned to handle hidden behavior challenges of autism at Educating Jacob.

     The Hidden Behavior Challenges of Autism 🧩

    I didn’t know that creating interactive activities and visual schedules would help Jacob with the hidden behavior challenges of autism. It was, and continues to be, a game changer. πŸ† Not only did having a daily schedule give him a sense of security and predictability, but it also reduced his anxiety, taught him independence, and showed him he was capable of learning and following instructions. βœ…Β 

    In the beginning, I was so distraught over his lack of communication, his difficulty interacting with others, and the struggle to make friends that I couldn’t see how something as simple as structured activities and visual schedules would make such a difference. But let me tell youβ€”boy, did I learn a lot! You don’t know what you don’t know! 🀯

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    πŸ“… Visual Schedules = More Independence and Less Anxiety!

     

    The Power of Community and Support in Autism Behavior Management 🀝

    One thing I wish I had back then was a community, a mentor, or a coach. While I had family, I didn’t have someone who had walked the same road. πŸšΆβ€β™€οΈ I found some guidance through teachers and seminars, where I learned about strategies that helped motivate Jacob to work and engage.

    I wanted someone to help my child talk, enjoy his family, make friends, go to regular classrooms, and have peers who genuinely wanted to play with him. But the truth is, navigating the hidden behavior challenges of autism is a long road. πŸ›€οΈ You must be open to trying new things, surrounding yourself with people who understand, and building a plan that works for your family.

    This journey isn’t about finding a quick fix or “curing” autism. It’s about celebrating wins πŸŽ‰, creating peace instead of chaos, and learning what you don’t yet know you need. Until you find ways to lessen those hidden behavior challenges of autism you’ll most likely experience chaos and frustration.

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    Giving choices shows you respect and care about him πŸ™ƒ

    Why Early Intervention Matters for Autism Behavior Management ⏳

    As a teacher, I can tell you that ignoring early diagnosis and waiting for school to handle everything is a nightmareβ€”for both the child and the teacher. 🏫 I’ve seen kids start kindergarten without speaking or interacting, and suddenly, they’re thrown into a structured environment where they’re expected to follow verbal instructions they don’t fully understand.

    Here’s another post you might find helpful:πŸ‘‰Β Β Mastering Autism Behavior Management: 3 Strategies for Success

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    This is what I’ve seen in my years of teaching.

    “You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know” –

    Most autistic children have receptive and expressive language delays, meaning they struggle with both understanding and expressing their needs. They probably also have some sensory challenges. This leads to frustration, anxiety, and eventually challenging behaviors. ⚠️ Many parents want their child to be treated like everyone else, but the reality is that without support, the child will experience unnecessary stress.

    Here’s what happens when a child isn’t prepared for a traditional classroom:

    • ❌ They don’t understand expectations.
    • ❌ They feel overwhelmed by constant verbal instructions.
    • ❌ They seek control through tantrums or repetitive behaviors.

    Visual Schedules: A Key to Reducing Hidden Behavior Challenges of Autism πŸ“…

    A diagnosis, a plan, and a structured environment are essential. When Jacob was diagnosed at age 4, he was placed in a preschool class for children with learning delays. But even there, his teacher wasn’t prepared for his unique needs. He wouldn’t listen to books being read in a group, he avoided activities, and instead of interacting with other kids, he was fascinated by the bathroom light switch. πŸ’‘

    I put him in that class because I was told to, but I quickly realized that without the right support, it wasn’t helping. After another meeting, he was moved to an autism-specific classroom. That teacher and staff were amazingβ€”they had a visual schedule ready for him on day one, using pictures to communicate his daily routine. πŸ“Έ

    I immediately copied this method at home, using visuals for daily tasks like:

    • 🍽️ Eat dinner
    • 🧸 Playtime
    • πŸŽ₯ Watch a movie
    • 🦷 Brush teeth
    • πŸ› Take a bath

    With consistent structure both at home and at school, Jacob’s anxiety decreased, and he began to thrive. 🌱

    Finding the Right Learning Environment for Autism Success 🏑

    Even with the improvements, the classroom setting still wasn’t the best fit for Jacob, given his high needs. That’s when I made the decision to homeschool him. ✏️ Now, homeschooling is a story for another day, but what I learned is this: structure, reducing anxiety, and creating environments that support interaction and independence are key.

    I had to learn what I didn’t knowβ€”I had to experiment, adapt, and embrace Jacob’s unique way of learning. And you can too! πŸ’‘

    Here’s another post you might find helpful:πŸ‘‰Β Β Why I Started Educating Jacob: Support and Resources for Autism Families

    Final Thoughts πŸ’­

    If you take anything from Jacob’s story, let it be this: Your family has to take action, do something different, and have grit! πŸ’ͺ Autism is not a one-size-fits-all journey, but when you start implementing schedules, reducing anxiety, and creating supportive environments, you’ll see a difference. You don’t have to wait until things get worseβ€”start today! 🏁

    πŸ‘‰Β Join Autism Thrive Tribe! 🌍

    Navigating the hidden behavior challenges of autism isn’t something you should do alone. That’s why I created πŸ‘‰Β Autism Thrive Tribeβ€”a community for parents who need support, guidance, and real solutions from someone who has been there.

    You don’t have to figure this out on your own. Join us today and start learning what you don’t yet knowβ€”because your child’s future depends on it. πŸ’™πŸ€—

    Here’s another post you might find helpful:πŸ‘‰Β  https://autismlittlelearners.com/autism-and-behavior/

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  • Teaching short term and maintenance goals for daily life with autistic son.

    Daily Life with an Autistic Son πŸ’™βœ¨

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    Always have a plan! 🫢

    Daily life with an autistic son started off with overwhelm and chaos. But, parenting a child with autism can be a journey filled with love, learning, and, let’s be realβ€”challenges. But after 27 years with Jacob and 14 years in public schools, I’ve learned that living chaos-free is possible! With the right approach, we can create calm, structure, and a thriving home for everyone.

    From Overwhelm to Clarity: Our Autism Parenting Journey πŸŒ€πŸ’‘

    When we first started our autism journey, our home was filled with constant stress, frustration, and unpredictability. Every day felt like we were bracing for impact, never knowing when the next meltdown would happen. We were always reacting instead of being proactive, and it was exhausting.

    My husband and I, along with our older son, Nicholas, felt the impact of this chaos just as much as Jacob did. The emotional toll was heavy, and at times, I wondered if we’d ever find a sense of peace.

    🎯 Our first breakthrough came when we decided to focus on small, clear goals. Instead of trying to change everything overnight, we started setting achievable steps that brought order and predictability into daily life with an autistic son.

    If you’re feeling overwhelmed, stuck in fear, or paralyzed by too many unknowns, the best thing you can do is start with one small focus and build from there. That’s where short-term and maintenance goals come in! πŸš€

     

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    Daily Life with an Autistic Son 🫢

    Why Short-Term and Maintenance Goals Matter πŸŽ―βœ…

    One of the biggest ways we reduced stress in our home was by having a clear plan. Instead of reacting to meltdowns, we started preparing ahead of time. When you set small, clear goals, you create a sense of direction for both you and your child.

    Short-Term Goals: Small Steps, Big Wins πŸ†βœ¨

    Short-term goals are small, achievable tasks that help your child learn new skills. These can be as simple as:

    βœ” Following a visual schedule for the morning routine πŸ–ΌοΈπŸ“…
    βœ” Brushing teeth independently with step-by-step guidance πŸͺ₯
    βœ” Using a picture exchange system to communicate needs πŸ—£οΈπŸ–ΌοΈ

    πŸ“Œ Why Short-Term Goals Work:
    βœ… They build confidence πŸ’ͺ
    βœ… They create predictability πŸ”„
    βœ… They help reduce anxiety by showing what’s expected 😌

    πŸ’‘ Tip: Start with skills your child already knows to make following a schedule easier. Success builds confidence!

     

    Maintenance Goals: Keeping Progress Going πŸ”„πŸŽ―

    Once your child masters a skill, the next challenge is keeping that progress! If we don’t practice skills regularly, they fade. Maintenance goals help keep those hard-earned skills fresh over time. Some examples include:

    βœ” Continuing daily self-care routines without reminders 🚿
    βœ” Practicing learned words or phrases to improve communication πŸ—¨οΈ
    βœ” Keeping a structured daily routine to reduce anxiety πŸ“†

    πŸ“Œ Why Maintenance Goals Matter:
    βœ… They reinforce what’s been learned
    βœ… They promote independence πŸ™Œ
    βœ… They reduce setbacks and keep skills strong πŸ’ͺ

    πŸ’‘ Tip: Use rewards and positive reinforcement to encourage your child to keep up with their progress. πŸŽ‰πŸ‘

    Creating a Daily Life Plan for Your Autistic Son πŸ“–βœοΈ

    Want to see progress? Start simple! One of the biggest mistakes parents make is trying to change too much at once. Instead, pick one small goal and build from there.

    For Jacob, we started with a visual schedule. I gave him tasks he already knew how to doβ€”like brushing his teeth or putting his shoes on. This way, there was no pushback. He saw that he was capable, and that built his confidence. πŸ’™

    πŸ“Œ How to Start a Simple Plan:
    1️⃣ Decide on Your Goal – What do you want to improve? Reducing anxiety? Increasing independence? Start with one focus.
    2️⃣ Use Visual Supports – Pictures, checklists, and schedules help autistic children understand what’s expected. πŸ–ΌοΈπŸ“‹
    3️⃣ Keep Instructions Simple – Short phrases and modeling work better than long explanations. πŸ—£οΈ
    4️⃣ Provide Structure – A predictable routine helps reduce anxiety and builds confidence. πŸ”„βœ¨
    5️⃣ Celebrate Progress – Every small win builds momentum! πŸŽ‰πŸ†

    πŸ“– Looking for more guidance? Check out my CALM Frameworks, where L = Learning to Create Schedules πŸ“…

    The Power of Clear Expectations πŸŒŸπŸ”Ž

    When we set clear expectations for our children, they begin to believe in their ability to learn and do things on their own. Many children with autism struggle with learned helplessness, where they believe they can’t do things for themselves.

    πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘¦ Our goal isn’t perfectionβ€”it’s progress! Even if our children won’t reach full independence, they can still learn and grow. The goal is to help them gain as much independence as possible while reducing daily stress and frustration.

    Building a Calmer Daily Life with an Autistic Son πŸ’™βœ¨

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    Jacob needs structure to thrive!

    Let’s talk a lot about my CALM Framework because it transformed my home. If you haven’t read about it yet, here’s a quick breakdown:

    βœ” C: Consistent Action Forward – Small daily efforts lead to progress. πŸš€
    βœ” A: Always Celebrate Wins – Focus on what your child CAN do. πŸŽ‰
    βœ” L: Learning to Create Schedules – Visual schedules create structure. πŸ“…
    βœ” M: Mindset – Believe that change is possible. 🧠

     

    Making It Work for Your Family πŸ‘πŸ’‘

    Overwhelmed? Start small. Choose one short-term goal and one maintenance goal. Write them down. Make them simple and clear.

    βœ” Example Short-Term Goal: Teach your child to follow a simple visual schedule.
    βœ” Example Maintenance Goal: Keep a consistent bedtime routine every night. πŸŒ™

    Over time, these small wins add up! You’ll start to see less chaos and more progress in daily life with your autistic son. πŸŽ‰

    πŸ“– Recommended Reading: Atomic Habits by James Clear – He talks about the power of committing to small actions, which is exactly what we need as autism parents! πŸ“š

     

    Final Thoughts: You Are Not Alone on This Journey πŸ’™πŸ€

    If you’re feeling overwhelmed, remember thisβ€”you are not alone. Every autism parent faces challenges, but with small, consistent efforts, you can create a structured, calm, and thriving home. πŸ’™

    Progress doesn’t happen overnight, but by setting clear short-term and maintenance goals, you’ll see your child gaining independence and confidence. Every little step forward is a win worth celebrating. πŸŽ‰πŸ‘

    Join the Autism Thrive Tribe! πŸŒŸπŸ‘©β€πŸ‘¦

    Want more support, practical strategies, and encouragement from parents who truly understand? πŸ’™ Join our Autism Thrive Tribeβ€”a community built for parents just like you!

    βœ… Connect with others who get it
    βœ… Learn practical, tested strategies
    βœ… Celebrate wins and get real-life advice

    πŸ”Ή Click here to join Autism Thrive Tribe today! πŸ”Ή

    Together, we can ditch the chaos and create a joyful home. Let’s take this journey together! πŸ’™βœ¨

    Let’s Reduce the Stress and Build a Happy Home! πŸ‘πŸ’™

    Parenting a child with autism is not easy, but with the right tools and mindset, it can be joyful!

    ✨ Let’s reduce the stress, bring more calm into your home, and help your child build the confidence to learn and grow.

    πŸ“’ What’s ONE small goal you’re setting for your child this week? Let me know in the comments! πŸ’¬πŸ‘‡

    πŸ“– Related Posts:
    πŸ“Œ The Magic of CommittingΒ  This post by James Clear on clarity, life lessons
    πŸ“Œ How to Achieve CALM on Autism IslandΒ  earlier blog post that may help!

     

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  • Come on Autism Thrive Tribe, 3 Ways to ditch chaos and get Happy!

    Autism Parenting Strategies for a Happy Home!

    Parenting a child with autism is a journey filled with love, learning, and, let’s be realβ€”chaos. But after 27 years with Jacob and 14 years in public schools, I’ve learned that chaos doesn’t have to rule our lives. With the right tools, we can create calm, structure, and a happier home for everyone! πŸ’™βœ¨

    When autism or a disability is involved, here are my top 3 autism parenting strategies for a happy home that help ditch chaos and bring more peace into your life:

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    Visual schedules are a game changer!

    1️⃣ Visual Schedules: Your Secret Weapon for Predictability πŸ–ΌοΈπŸ“…

    Imagine waking up every day and not knowing what’s next. Sounds stressful, right? That’s exactly how our kids feel without a clear, structured plan.

    πŸ“Œ Why Visual Schedules Work: βœ… Reduce anxiety and meltdowns βœ… Help with transitions between tasks βœ… Provide a sense of control over the day βœ… Make changes less overwhelming

    πŸ’‘ Pro Tip: Having a visual schedule in place makes life easier because when unexpected things happen, you can show your child that the day is getting back to normal soon.

    πŸ‘€ How I Use Visual Schedules: βœ” I plan a simple daily schedule that Jacob can see βœ” If something unexpected comes up, I adjust the schedule and show him βœ” I use pictures, words, or even a small whiteboard on the go βœ” I remind him what’s coming next to redirect attention to something positive

    πŸ“– Looking for more guidance? Check out my CALM Frameworks, where L = Learning to Create Schedules πŸ“…Β How to reduce chaos at home with an autistic child using my CALM frameworks.

    πŸ“Œ How Redirection Helps: βœ… Moves attention away from frustration βœ… Eases transitions without power struggles βœ… Keeps moods light and positive βœ… Helps get back on track when things go sideways
    Redirection, get unstuck! #ParentingWithPurpose #AutismThriveTribe

    2️⃣ Redirection: The Power of the Pivot! πŸ”„βœ¨

    Sometimes, despite our best efforts, our kids get stuck in frustration, repetitive behaviors, or sensory overload. That’s when redirection comes in!

    πŸ”„ What is Redirection? It’s a gentle shift in focus to something more positive, engaging, or calming.

    πŸ“Œ How Redirection Helps: βœ… Moves attention away from frustration βœ… Eases transitions without power struggles βœ… Keeps moods light and positive βœ… Helps get back on track when things go sideways

    πŸ’‘ How I Use Redirection with Jacob:

    • 🎢 Music therapy: If Jacob is upset, I play his favorite songs to shift his mood.
    • πŸƒ Movement breaks: If sitting still is hard, I guide him to a different task (jumping jacks, stretching, or a walk).
    • πŸ“– Exciting distractions: β€œHey Jacob, after this, we get to watch your favorite movie!”

    πŸ›‘ Remember: Redirection is NOT briberyβ€”it’s a tool to help your child focus on something positive instead of staying overwhelmed.Β Stop engaging in power struggles! Use redirection for your autistic child.

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    βœ” The power of visual schedules to reduce anxiety & help transitions πŸ“…

    3️⃣ Planning Ahead: Your Autism Parenting Survival Kit! πŸŽ’πŸ› οΈ

    🎬 Ever watch a spy movie where the hero has hidden bags full of money and supplies for emergencies? Well, as an autism parent, YOU should have a survival bag too! πŸ˜†πŸ’Ό

    πŸ“Œ What to Pack in Your Autism Go-Bag: βœ” Sensory-friendly fidgets (putty, stretchy silicone, pop-its) βœ” Headphones or earplugs for noise reduction βœ” Favorite snacks & drinks βœ” Extra clothes (because sensory discomfort is real!) βœ” Small visual schedule to show what’s next

    πŸ‘— Pro Tip: Plan ahead for sensory needs. Choose soft, tag-free clothes that won’t trigger irritation or discomfort. A meltdown avoided = a win! πŸ†

    πŸ‘€ How I Plan Ahead in the Classroom: I always keep baskets of sensory itemsβ€”even for students who aren’t high sensory seekersβ€”because we all need breaks and fun! πŸŽ‰ Complete some work? Grab a fidget and take a break! Easy peasy! Love Teacch trainings:Β https://teacch.com/

     

    Ditch the Chaos with Autism Parenting Strategies for a Happy Home! πŸ’™βœ¨

    We all want a happy, thriving homeβ€”and the key to that is reducing chaos and creating structure. That’s why I always go back to my CALM Frameworks:

    βœ” C: Consistent Action Forward πŸš€ βœ” A: Always Celebrate Wins πŸŽ‰ βœ” L: Learning to Create Schedules πŸ“… βœ” M: Mindset Shift 🧠

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    Grocery store finds that make me smile! Autism Parenting Strategy!

    πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘¦ Remember: Your mindset and emotional regulation are just as important as your child’s. If your emotions are high, so will theirs beβ€”guaranteed.

    πŸ’‘ Which strategy do YOU use the most? Drop a comment and let’s chat! πŸ‘‰And if you want to connect with parents who GET IT, join the Autism Thrive Tribe today! πŸ’™

    #AutismParenting #AutismParentingStrategiesForAHappyHome #SpecialNeedsScheduling #AutismSupport #AutismMom #ParentingWithPurpose #AutismThriveTribe

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  • Come on Autism Thrive Tribe: 3 Autism Parenting Strategies for a Happy Home!

    Parenting a child with autism is a journey filled with love, learning, and, let’s be realβ€”chaos. But after 27 years with Jacob and 14 years in public schools, I’ve learned that chaos doesn’t have to rule our lives. With the right tools, we can create calm, structure, and a happier home for everyone! πŸ’™βœ¨

    When autism or a disability is involved, here are my top 3 autism parenting strategies for a happy home that help ditch chaos and bring more peace into your life:

    1️⃣ Visual Schedules: Your Secret Weapon for Predictability πŸ–ΌοΈπŸ“…

    Imagine waking up every day and not knowing what’s next. Sounds stressful, right? That’s exactly how our kids feel without a clear, structured plan.

    πŸ“Œ Why Visual Schedules Work: βœ… Reduce anxiety and meltdowns βœ… Help with transitions between tasks βœ… Provide a sense of control over the day βœ… Make changes less overwhelming

    πŸ’‘ Pro Tip: Having a visual schedule in place makes life easier because when unexpected things happen, you can show your child that the day is getting back to normal soon.

    πŸ‘€ How I Use Visual Schedules: βœ” I plan a simple daily schedule that Jacob can see βœ” If something unexpected comes up, I adjust the schedule and show him βœ” I use pictures, words, or even a small whiteboard on the go βœ” I remind him what’s coming next to redirect attention to something positive

    πŸ“– Looking for more guidance? Check out my CALM Frameworks, where L = Learning to Create Schedules πŸ“…

    2️⃣ Redirection: The Power of the Pivot! πŸ”„βœ¨

    Sometimes, despite our best efforts, our kids get stuck in frustration, repetitive behaviors, or sensory overload. That’s when redirection comes in!

    πŸ”„ What is Redirection? It’s a gentle shift in focus to something more positive, engaging, or calming.

    πŸ“Œ How Redirection Helps: βœ… Moves attention away from frustration βœ… Eases transitions without power struggles βœ… Keeps moods light and positive βœ… Helps get back on track when things go sideways

    πŸ’‘ How I Use Redirection with Jacob:

    • 🎢 Music therapy: If Jacob is upset, I play his favorite songs to shift his mood.
    • πŸƒ Movement breaks: If sitting still is hard, I guide him to a different task (jumping jacks, stretching, or a walk).
    • πŸ“– Exciting distractions: β€œHey Jacob, after this, we get to watch your favorite movie!”

    πŸ›‘ Remember: Redirection is NOT briberyβ€”it’s a tool to help your child focus on something positive instead of staying overwhelmed.

    3️⃣ Planning Ahead: Your Autism Parenting Survival Kit! πŸŽ’πŸ› οΈ

    🎬 Ever watch a spy movie where the hero has hidden bags full of money and supplies for emergencies? Well, as an autism parent, YOU should have a survival bag too! πŸ˜†πŸ’Ό

    πŸ“Œ What to Pack in Your Autism Go-Bag: βœ” Sensory-friendly fidgets (putty, stretchy silicone, pop-its) βœ” Headphones or earplugs for noise reduction βœ” Favorite snacks & drinks βœ” Extra clothes (because sensory discomfort is real!) βœ” Small visual schedule to show what’s next

    πŸ‘— Pro Tip: Plan ahead for sensory needs. Choose soft, tag-free clothes that won’t trigger irritation or discomfort. A meltdown avoided = a win! πŸ†

    πŸ‘€ How I Plan Ahead in the Classroom: I always keep baskets of sensory itemsβ€”even for students who aren’t high sensory seekersβ€”because we all need breaks and fun! πŸŽ‰ Complete some work? Grab a fidget and take a break! Easy peasy!

    Autism Parenting Strategies for a Happy Home! πŸ’™βœ¨

    We all want a happy, thriving homeβ€”and the key to that is reducing chaos and creating structure. That’s why I always go back to my CALM Frameworks:

    βœ” C: Consistent Action Forward πŸš€ βœ” A: Always Celebrate Wins πŸŽ‰ βœ” L: Learning to Create Schedules πŸ“… βœ” M: Mindset Shift 🧠

    πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘¦ Remember: Your mindset and emotional regulation are just as important as your child’s. If your emotions are high, so will theirs beβ€”guaranteed.

    πŸ’‘ Which strategy do YOU use the most? Drop a comment and let’s chat! And if you want to connect with parents who GET IT, join the Autism Thrive Tribe today! πŸ’™

    #AutismParenting #AutismParentingStrategiesForAHappyHome #SpecialNeedsScheduling #AutismSupport #AutismMom #ParentingWithPurpose #AutismThriveTribe

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